How to move on?

March 1, 2004

The last two weeks have been hard. After working with a birthmom for six months (she had just 6 weeks until her due date), she called to tell us that she had changed her mind about us. She said that she had found another adoptive family who could better meet her needs. I feel like the world has just come to complete stop. We have everything ready for a baby girl that now will not be coming to our home.

I am so wanting to grieve the loss of this little one so that we can regroup and move on but I can't help hoping that the birthmother may change her mind again.

What are we to do?

Jillrandy7

March 2, 2004

I am very sorry to hear about your loss! wowo that would be so heartbreaking, especially being prepared.. all i can offer to you is that your heavenly father has that certain spirit and that spirit will come to you when things are certain, i know that things will be down for you for a while but just look at the bright side to know that there are alot of babies that need loving homes.:)

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camilleh

March 2, 2004

I wish that I had some wonderful words of wisdom to share with you. I can only say how sorry I am.

Whatever Heavenly Father has planned for you is bigger and better than what you could plan for yourself. Try to remember that. I know how much it hurts

Hugs,

ladybuglady

March 3, 2004

Hi,

I am sorry, I know that your lose is real and painful. The best advice is to try to move on and if she changes her mind, then that is just an unexpected bonus. Like they say, hope for the best but plan for the worst. If she has waited this long to make a decisions, she is probably pretty firm in the decision because it would have taken a lot od guts to even call you.

I am so sorry you have to go through this but the Lord knows your heart and feels your pain.

All my best to you,

LBL :)

lovestory

March 3, 2004

I go to articles and scripture when things seem to come plunging down around me, and it is amazing how accurately the things I read fit my situation...and how they lift me up.

This last month has been a bit straining for me, also. Not to mention this last year. In reading the VT message in the Ensign last month, MANY parts stuck out to me. It was on faith.

Dallan H. Oaks gave a wonderful thought, that is quoted: "The exercise of faith in the Lord Jesus Christ is always subject to the order of heaven, to the goodness and will and wisdom and timing of the Lord. That is why we cannot have true faith in the Lord without also having complete trust in the Lord's will and in the Lord's timing"

The whole article is wonderful:

[url]http://www.lds.org/library/display/0,4945,2044-1-2569-1,00.html[/url]

Best to you and your family,

Stephanie

tev'smom

March 3, 2004

Lovestory-

Thank you for the reminder of the VT message from last month. When I taught that lesson, I was in a different place with a different perspective. I agree with you. There are many times I find strength in the gospel, especially in Primary where we are focusing on the family this year. The last two Sundays I have been brought to tears with the testimonies of faithful children expressing their love of their families.

Life is interesting- not at all what I thought it would be. Not bad, just different.