the colorado confidential intermediary

I used it about 12 years ago, and my intermediary was able to locate my birthfather but never could find my birthmother. I especially liked this option because it gives the birthparent the first choice as far as whether he or she wants to make contact with the adoptee. You do have to pay the intermediary's search expenses and the other thing that disappointed me was that when I chose to end the search, she told me all the written info she had collected about me would most likely be destroyed. Also, she said I could never re - open a search once I had closed it.

Thanks Carolyn for your reply. I did decide to use it, should hear from them soon. ~Donetta

I sent all information and money order to them about 4 weeks ago and have heard nothing. I am a bit nervous about the possibility I may have lost $600.

Are you registered with the CO online registry? If not, I highly recommend that. The address is [url]http://www.nmia.com/~rema2/index.html[/url] If you are, become a member of the mailing group. Ellen, who hosts the site, could answer these questions a lot better then I can. I don't think that you lost your money. It maybe that they are very busy. What agency were you adopted through? ~Donetta