What would my daughter call me

I think what you call a bmom comes naturally, I call mine Mom, its what works for us. Sometimes I slip and call her by first name, both are fine. I would not call her Mom when I am with my Amom, to much confusion and also would upset my amom. Aimee

Hi Gail--when I first found my birthparents and was reunited, I had no idea what to call them. My adopted parents were Mom and Dad and always would be, but it seemed strange to be calling my birthparents by just their first names, plus when I was telling all my friends about the reunion, they would often get confused as to who was who. So now my birthparents are Momma Dawn and Papa Shawn, and they both love these nicknames I've given them. (What's even more fun is that my adopted parents are Jayne and Duane. Jayne and Duane, Shawn and Dawn!) :D I love that! Anyway, I guess that everyone's situations are different and they just need to go with the flow and see what is natural to them. It may take awhile, but I'm sure you'll figure it out. Best of luck in your journey!

I've seen this question here before but have never responded, but this is a problem/issue with me in my reunion. What do I call my bmom and what does she want me to call her? I usually avoid calling her anything. When I am talking to my mom about my bmom, I call her by her name (my mom likes to pretend she dosen't know who I'm talking about). It's especially awkward when I'm talking to my half- siblings. It feels weird to say "how's mom doing?" . I guess I should just say whatever I feel comfortable saying, but so far I haven't felt comfortable calling her anything.

My daughter and I found it most comfortable for her to use my first name when she addresses me. But I am nana to the grandchildren and the adoptive mom is grandma. When my daugther refers to me with others, she will say "my mother" when she talks about her adoptive mom, she says, my mom. Every reunion is different. Just find what is right for you and your daughter and go with it and don't push for anything that feels uncomfortable for the other. We are in a very good reunion and she recently shared these lyrics with me - she said these meant so much to her. She saw this movie (Pearl Harbor) right before we were reunited. For those that do not know, Faith Hill was adopted at birth and has been reunited with her mother for approx. 10 years. Faith Hill When I think back on these times And the dreams we left behind I'll be glad 'cause I was blessed To get to have you in my life When I look back on these days I'll look and see your face You were right there for me ~ In my dreams I'll always see you soar above the sky In my heart there will always be a place for you For all my life I'll keep a part of you with me And everywhere I am, there you'll be ~ Well you showed me how to feel Feel the sky was in my reach And I always will remember all the strength you gave to me Your love made me make it through Oh, I owe so much to you You were right there for me ~ In my dreams I'll always see you soar above the sky In my heart there will always be a place for you For all my life I'll keep a part of you with me And everywhere I am, there you'll be ~ 'Cause I always saw in you my light, my strength And I want to thank you now For all the ways you were right there for me You were right there for me For always

I just want to say, that odds are if your daughter had a good adoption, that means good relationship with her aparents and such that she would most likely call you by your first name. MOM is asking 2 much, i think. yes, you gave birth to her, and you are her bmom, bt she was raised by her mom. Although she may love you, Mom is term she may feel only appropriate at certain times. I speak from the adoptees point of view, because i know when I find my b-mom, I will call her by her first name. Mom is not a term I throw around, and besides I have a mom, but a birthmom I will call by her fist name is always welcome.

When I met my birthmother I called her by her first name. When I spoke to my half-brother's, I referred to her as "your mother." I never had the desire to call her "mom" and I never had a problem calling her by her first name. I did feel awkward when talking to my half-brother's though when referring to my birth mother their "mom". I found the whole reunion thing uncomfortable.