~Relationship Stages After a Reunion

Three cheers for you!. What a gal...I am proud of your success and determination to get to this stage. I wish my story was as successful. I was born in MO at St Vincent's Hospital and placed right after birth in the adjacent orphanage called St Anthony's Home for Infants. After my parents passed away, because to try to get any info on my natural parents I would have had to have their permission regardless of how old we are, I went to CC and a CI was assigned and I got my non id info. Later I hired a PI to see if, with the little info I had, if my natural parents could be found..and she found my natural mother. I spoke to her once and she was not happy that I found her. She did not want any pictures, was not interested to know how or what I became nothing. She was polite but fearful I think. Anyway because she wanted no more contact I respected her. Then I wrote to the aunts the PI located. I got one letter and it was nasty..and Cora speaks for all of them it seems as none of the others bothered to write. Then with my own efforts on genealogy websites I filled in lots of the info and just kept at it. I finally found a cousin..google is amazing. We linked up, and I have to tell you about how that goes now, and became fast friends. She filled me in on that family and largely it is one to stay away from. I made a trip to see her and look at the countryside where my natural mother lived, she was now deceased, and lo and behold we located someone who gave me an address of a half brother. I spoke to him but in the end it ended badly..my half sister had known about me and that I used a PI thanks to that aunt who forwarded a copy of the letter I wrote to them to my natural mother who kept it~ For someone who didn't want anyone to know about me...wow my half sister told me through my half brother, who seems like a really nice man by the way, that if I ever tried to contact them again they would sue me. I didn't want anything other than to see a picture of my natural mother, to learn about her likes and dislikes, her talents and faborite foods and colors etc. As to the evolution of relationships with the newly found natural family, my cousin who is a dear dear person, and her kids, said I resemble their mom in terms of voice and gestures..it is " creepy good" and my aunt, whom they tell me would have loved to meet me, is gone..After a long visit here, when I would call my cousin would be busy or not there etc so I stopped calling though we do email at least a couple times a week , That honeymoon period is past and things are really more normal in that respect than daily emails and so many calls. Then not long ago, she confided that it is my strong similarities to her mom that makes it hard over the phone. In person not so much. and her daughters who once in a while used to send a note do not now. That part is sad but there is no anger..just how it is. So I wish you good luck with the development of the relationship with your natural famaily and half siblings. I think the half siblings are worried that you are going to take their father away from them and when they finally learn that is not your goal they may come round. They may also be afraid you may challenge them in court for estate matters which you may legally be entitled to do inasmuch as he abandoned you and you were never placed with a family. But that is for lawyers. I made it clear to my half brother I was not interested in any thing in terms of properties for our natual mother I just wanted to know about her. As to my natural father..don't know who he is or if he even knew about me..\ Keep us posted on how things develop for you..