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Hi outcast
It does seem like all of the laws are to protect everyone but us doesn't it. If your whole biological family is deceased other than one sister I cannot believe that they are going to put you through all of this. We as adoptees definately get the raw end of the deal. Are you going to puch forward with it??
Tell me about how you found your family??? Newspaper? Fill me in. I can use all the help I can get.
Lisa
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I would encourage you to give petitioning the court a try. I am a 62 year old adoptee who petitioned the court to have my records opened. I went to the court date and appeared before the judge expecting him to deny my request after reading the many experiences of others. Surprisingly he approved my request and I went to the clerk's office and they gave me copies of the court records showing my birth mother's name. I researched at the local library and found her. Then, I checked in Ancestry and found that she was deceased. I then looked on microfilm and found her obituary. I went to the Funeral home hoping to find a copy of her obit so that I could see the photo and it was too long ago. She had passed away at age 67. They did put me in contact with her sister-in-law. I also did a DNA test with Ancestry a couple of years ago which back in the summer connected me with a first cousin locally. His mother felt I was her deceased brother's child and she took a DNA test which confirmed she was my aunt. I have been welcomed by both sides of the family - my birth father's side and my birth mother's side. It has been wonderful finding more family since both my adoptive mother and father have passed away. Unbelievably my birth mother and her husband (also deceased and knew nothing about me) had no biological children. They adopted a daughter and she and I consider each other sisters. My birth mother's adopted daughter and my blood first cousin (child of birth mother's sister) have met for lunch and dinner several times. We feel like we have known each other forever. They even say I have many of my birth mother's mannerisms which is strange since I always felt those things were learned from being around someone. So to sum it all up - give petitioning a try. You just never know what the outcome might be.
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Hello,
Have a weird twist to the group. Looking to unseal my original birth certificate. I found my birth mom 25 years ago, had a great relationship. She just passed with no will (although an account in my legal name exists).
I filled out relationship affidavit of relationship - she never married, didn’t have any other children. The County Administrator of San Mateo County wants me to get my original, preadoption borth certificate. My adoptive parents have passed. I’m willing to have an attorney do whatever is necessary (speed is an issue-don’t want her house to lose insurance/tax liens.
Can anyone recommend an attorney? I contacted the SF bar for a referral but haven’t heard back. Any help, opinion, resource, or ideas are appreciated.
Thanks,
Ray
Hello I know this post is really old and I’m not sure if I will get a response but I’m kind of going through the same thing and this is my situation I am 25 and had a closed adopted as a baby In French camp ,California(San Joaquin County). I am trying to find my biological parents I know the hospital I was born but on my birth certificate it shows my adoptive parents on the certificate. My adopted parents passed away and none of my adoptive family knows anything. I recently sent a letter requesting my non identifying information and called them and they said they received it and it could take up to the most 3 months to get that information back but usually doesn't take that long. l also just ordered 23Me kit and Ancestry kit to see if I match with any relatives. And last thing I did was called the courthouse and they told me forms I can print out to petition the court to unseal my birth certificate and I filled out all that paperwork and going to mail it off tommorow and I'm the petition I stated I wanted it for medical reasons and I also include a form from my doctor that I will be mailing along with it so l'm not sure how that will go. And once I get my 23nme and ancestry result I will be signup for a free search angel and will be signing up for adoption registry. Is there any other advice or steps I should take ? Or is this a good start. Thank you all for the advice.