a poem about being adopted

Thats beautiful.... I have a favorite sating about adoption: What it means to be adopted: That you came from your mommy's heart instead of her tummy.

thank you!!!!! i wrote it yesturday!

That is a beautiful poem. I'm a BMom and recently my son found me. I am only now discovering what happened to both of us - emotions, rejection . . . Your poem explains a lot and will help me understand what my son has gone through and is going through.

Thanks so much again, that is why i wrote it, it explains a lot about the adoptees feelings I believe! keep letting my know how all of you feel about it!

Thank you, that was a beautiful poem! I always feel better reading what other people are feeling, because it makes me realize that I'm not the only one with these problems. It's always very cathartic getting the feelings out. Thanks again!

Thanks for expressing so clearly the confusing thoughts that do, in a sense make me feel disconected with others. I just wish that people other than fellow adoptees could understand the inner chaos. Anytime I try to express it to others, it's percieved as anger or a ploy for sympathy. tlee

Thank you for letting me know that I am not the only one feeling this way. I have had these emotions for years and only recently starting searching and reading this forum. I have always felt that I was just an outcast that did not belong and I am so glad to know that there are many others with the same emotions. Also to "tlee".......you said it best when you said that people see it as a ploy...............and that could not be further from the truth. I just wish I could help others understand what it is like to look in the mirror and see a stranger..........where did I come from? who do I look like? How do you ever explain to your children that their family tree is just a stump because you are the family tree?????????

That is beautiful and so true! It is sad that the people that need to understand it the most are the ones in my life that think that I just need to get over it..."don't dwell on it" they say. If they would just TRY to put themselves in my place they might understand that these are TRUE feelings that in some ways, they could help to stabalize by being the family they say they want to be. My story is that I found out @ the age of 43 (3 yrs ago) that I was adopted. My birth mom is dead (died 1976). My AMom just passed away in March without ever knowing that I found out. My Adad died when I was 10 and no one knows who my BDad is. I have met my BMom's 2 sisters and a brother that my BMom raised (he didn't find out about his 3 siblings until about 6 years ago)(yes there were 3 given away). I have also met my brother that was given up also. I have found the other brother, but he doesn't want to know us. I feel such a connection to my BBrother that she raised. I am the oldst and he is the 2nd oldest. We are 13 months apart. He says he feels it too. But there just isn't the urgency to know me that I feel. I thought about sending him the poem and the aunts too. They would probably think I was just trying to get sympathy or that I am trying to make them feel bad. I am not...I just want them to try to understand what emotions I am going through. What does everyone out there think? April "How does a child connect with the human spirit when they are chosen and not born?"

Wow! What a poem! I am not normally a "poetry guy" but I have read and re-read that poem several times and it amazes me how much it speaks to me! I don't think i've ever read or heard anything about how an adoptee feels that strikes me right to the core as much as that. Amazing.

I have finally decided to look for my birthparents after 40 years. It finally took 20 years of alcohol dependency and a failed marriage to show me what had been bothering me for so long. I love my adoptive parents but always felt not loved the way other children were. I always knew I was adopted, but never accepted it. I would lie about it, and would never accept it. The questions always came, you don't look like your parents, or your siblings. I have never been able to express love to the woman I married because of this. I do believe that I have true love for my children. When my oldest was born, I cried and felt something that I had never felt before, and I have felt that with my other two at one time or another. Regardless I am going through hell right now about to lose the three things I do feel I have true love for, and the one I could never show it to. I guess I am looking for anyone who has had a similar situtation as mine, to discuss with. I am okay with the seperation from my wife, but my kids are killing me. I also lost my job earlier this year and I think all of the stress has opened up the repressed feelings I have had all these years. I am ready to heal, so I can be strong for my children. I also need to let my wife know that I do and did love her, I just didn't know how to express it. I have talked to a counsoler twice now and am going in two days to talk to a faith based one. Any feedback from anyone would be greatly appreciated. Thank you, JG

wow very nice- and i thought know would ever understood

Wow-that is beautiful. You wrote how I have felt for 48 years now. I hope that you will write more poems - you have the talent. Thank you for sharing.

I know I'm digging this thread up from the past but do feel it's justified... I too now in my life am coming to terms with "my issues" after the passing of my "A-Mom" 5 years ago... Thank you for putting words to my feelings ..and to all the replies letting me know that I'm not crazy and others who are adopted do feel the same things that I feel ..My older sister is also adopted and dosen't quite feel the same as I do..She says "I think your putting to much weight into it all." :grr: Here is someone I grew up with in the same house and doesnt' get it and in turn really brings the whole "Alone" aspect to light even more. I am new around here and feel some form of comfort in knowing I'm not really all alone...Thank you:cool:

Hey LostinSeattle,My brother, who's adopted from another orphanage in Taiwan, feels similarly to your sister and probably would say the same stuff as she did. In addition to him not 'getting it', he doesn't even want to talk about anything about adoption. He even promptly left the room when I was showing photos of my trip to Taiwan to his wife. You're definitely not alone!

Thanks RIPP..She will talk about it...she's fine at that point . She just goes with that part we all lie to ourselfs about .."I was adopted by someone who wanted me and loved me ..gave me a wonderful life..bla bla bla..." And the lies we try to sell ourselfes on everyday.."What a strong woman to love me so much, to give me life over abortion..to be strong enough to give me to someone who could take better care of me..bla bla..bla.." What about all those things we feel beond that?? what about the questions we have no answers to?? what about those aches that dont go away?? Hey why did I try to swing from a rope around my neck tied to the rafters in the garage at 15?? wow look I even fail at that..(I'm so glad for that by the way, now that I have my own children)