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I am Kelly and I was adopted not long after birth. My parents never would hide the fact that I was adopted, and it didn't make a difference. Well, recently it was really hard on me because of all the teachers at school talking about genetics or looking the same or so on. I talked to my adopted mother about ym birth mom and she didn't have much information. It was really hard because it sometimes feels like a part of you is missing that nobody knows about and neither do you. I have found that talking with my parents, which up until recently wasn't apart of the plan, really helped to open up the conversation. It is a big part of my life and theirs too and we needed to talk about it. Also, for awhile when I was upset I would think I was a mistake, but then I realized that I was. Being a mistake has put things in a new light for me though, a good one. When you feel like you weren't suppose to be here, it really makes you think, wow I have this amazing life .Even though it is ****ty at times, I get to live it and love it. I mean I should be out there helping people and doing things. I get the chance to live.. it really makes you think. I've been curious still about my birth parents and I want to find them, unfortunately for me I am not old enough yet. what is it 21 or 18? I don't even remember. thanks for reading..
kelly
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I give you alot of credit. You sound mature for your age ( under 18?) I'm 32 and have just started the procedure to find out more about my birth parents. My adoptive parents brought me up so well, that it never really mattered. I'm not even sure how much I want to fing out..I just keep hearing the term "pandora's box" and become more hesitant. I have a good life but I'm becoming more curious. As for someone being a mistake....Who isn't a mistake and who is? I doubt that many pregnancys are planned. I've never thought of myself as a mistake. There are no mistakes in bringing a child into the world.
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Hi Kelly, i think that there are lot's of us that feel we were a mistake but i don't think that at all. my bmom had a reason why she gave me up maybe because she could'nt even take care of herself (ran away,didn't want to listen to adults)in some way's i feel sorry for her.she was a ward of the court from ages 3-11yrs. then lived with her aunt.an other stuff.i have found some great aunts cousins an that's ok with me even if i don't find her i know she is out there somewhere maybe even thinking about me. she still remembers me because the aunt she lived with found a piece of paper with my birthname an date of birth on it.which shocked the hell out of me.yes you can start searching at 18.i'm glad you have such a positive outlook :)just promise me you keep me posted on how it is going ok.take care an i'll see you around here.
Kelly,I also never looked at my birth as a mistake, people who are family planning get pregnant without knowing it and even if they wanted to it might not have been the right time for them or they were caught off guard. No child is a mistake in my eyes and the way I look at it is my birth mom didn't think I was a mistake because she found a way to give me a great family and great life and my family didn't think I was a mistake because they were waiting for me and wanted me.
In the usa (i belive in all states) the legal age is 18. I know it was in Ct. i turned 18 almost year ago. Wait patiently cus when the time for screaching comes that patiant part might not be there. I would suggest you apply to get non-idetifable information before you start the actually search. This might give you informatin weather you want to look more into yourself. you would be suprised in what comes in those files. My papers put me at ease a little more but i still wanted to look for my bparents. if you have bsiblings have them help you out in finding them. But be patiant. I remember i when i was still 16 and 17 i wanted to ust jump in and find them. I even started looking threw this site and posting my information. (got deleted everytime) but just keep your head up and be like my aparents love me and i know this beacuse they chose me.