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I am a bmom who has just had her first contact with her adopted child. She is only a teenager (her parents supported her search for me, I have spoken with them and they are delighted for her, and reasonably a little anxious).
We spoke on the phone (she had a lot of tough questions) and sent me a picture. She is beyond my wildest dreams!
Especially because she is so young, I am terrified of making a mistake. I'm afraid of saying the wrong thing. I'm afraid to send her my picture (can I measure up to her imaginings?)
As uncomfortable as some of her questions were, I answered truthfully. I believe it was the best way to start a potential relationship. We live only a few minutes from each other, and will meet soon.
I am very concerned about the impact the reunion will have not only on my adopted child (i don't even know what to call her!) and on her family.
Any advice? I'm excited and scared to death!
Thank you all.
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I am a teenager like your Bchild. I reunited with my mother about a year ago over the phone! It was the MOST exciting thing ever! Truly I was so excited to think that my mom wants me and is loving me that much. I am sure that your daughter is feeling the same way! HOW WONDERFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The first thing I asked my Bmom on the phone was: "Sooo... what did you have for dinner last night?" Pathetic I know. But I was nervous! It is so good that you answered truthfully to all her questions because I too would want the truth of my Bmother. Wow, you only live a few minutes from each other!?! That must be so tempting!!
My Advice: Go slow and real/ze that there are a lot of emot/ons that are roll/ng around through both of your m/nds. Be glad that her Adoptve famly /s beng so supportve towards the reun/on. Although not all reun/ons are the same and may turn out wonderfully and some may turn out not so good. All you have to do /s be pat/ent and understand that you are st/ll a stranger to her even though she has your blood runnng through her v/ens. Understand also that to have a relatonsh/p wth her her famly w/ll have to be /nvolved. Good Luc!! eep us posted on the reun.on!!!
Sorry somth/ng /s wrong w/th the /'s on my eyboard!!
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