Grieving my lost brother, Demaree Woolums, Jr.

My b brother, Demaree Woolums, Jr., died April 15, 2004. Having known him for more than half my life, I grieve as surely as do his whole sibling. Perhaps not as deeply, but I still grieve. My b mom added to this grief by not including me in his obit. Although I can get over that now I am confused as to what is a proper obit. I was adopted at 14 months, raised by my a parents without knowledge of my b family, met my be b family when I was in my 20's (am now in my 40's). What should my obit. show? Carolyn Kay