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I am a bmom and my son (32)contacted me 7 weeks ago. It was the most wonderful moment knowing that he was alive. After 3 weeks we reunited and it went great! WE both want to have a realtionship of somekind. I don't know if either of us know exactly what kind yet. My husband is trying his best to be supportive. My other two sons (ages 20 and 22) are seeming to have a problem with the news. The 22 yr old ( he lives out of town)asked a few questions and now does not want to talk about it or see any pictures from our visit. The 20 yr old also does not want to talk about it but seems to have accepted it. He looked at pictures and said he would like to meet his half brother someday, but as of yet he has asked no more questions and has not expressed any desire to meet him. Myhusband has also said he would like to meet him, but has not yet said he is ready. I am planning on a 5 day visit back to see my son and grandson next week. My other sons reaction to all of this news has but a damper on my excitement on my visit. ANy advice on how I should handle this would be apprecited. Let them have their space, make them talk etc..
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I am a birth mother in search of her birth daughter born June 6, 1971. My husband is very supportive of my search. I have not yet told my children of my birth child, but am prepared to do so. Their ages are 18, 21, 25, & 26. I also have two step children who are 26 & 31. I often wonder what there reaction will be. I think that it will take time for them to get used to the idea of a half-sibling. I think that your family will be okay if given time to adjust. Remember, this is all new information to them.
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I have often thought that they may have adjusted to the news better if I had told them before I was contacted. This way they could adjust to the news and the shock first. It may be something for you to think of so you don't have to deal with both situations at the same time. There will be so many emotions flying around when you locate her, I would love for you to enjoy that and not have to think about telling your other children and their reation all at once. Just a suggestion. Good Luck in your search