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I just wanted to tell everyone that I can relate to everyone's cases. I was a 18 year old unwed mother, who almost had an abortion. Only by the grace of GOD , did I give birth and raise my son. My husband and I have been trying for 10 years to have a baby after secondary infertility. We have had 2 ectopics, 1 miscarriage, 1 failed private adoption, my husband is an adoptee, my husband has adopted my son, and we are now foster to adopt parents through the state of TN. I have ofen joked I can write a book about all I have been through. Evertime I read these posts, I think about my situation and how my life has turned out. While I am by no means an authority, if anyone has any questions about any of my experiences, please don't hesitate to ask me. God has blessed me with a loving family, 2 beautiful biological children (age 19 and 17 now) a husband that was exactly what I prayed for (literally)that is a huge loving teddy bear, that supports me in everything and loves children. We have had 8 babies that we have lost and know that we will meet when we reach Heaven. We are now approved foster to adopt parents from the state of TN who was blessed with a 2 1/2 year old baby girl at birth who we hope to adopt. My husband and I want a large family. Family is what we live for. I am a stay at home mom, who plans on homeschooling (if we get to adopt this baby girl). We have been taken by an unscrupulous birthmother who took our money and then let her child go into foster care. However, we know that all of these are just tests by GOD. We know that GOD is looking after us and our babies. All of our babies, whether they are already in heaven, in our home or yet to join us. We continue to pray that GOD will send us those babies that need a loving home and a safe and stable and nurturing environment. My husband and I firmly believe in open adoption. Any one who is considering adoption (birthmother or adoptive parent) I hope that open adoption would be an option that each and everyone involved in that baby's life will consider. In my opinion, it is a win win situation. The birthparents know their child is taken care of, they can see their child grow. The adoptive parents have the child their arms and hearts have longed for. They are in a place in their life that can afford that child a stable life. The child will know both sets of parents, will grow up feeling secure, loved by everyone, have a wonderful amount of self esteem, will not have to wonder who he/she looks like, will know that they were not given up because they "weren't loved" but were indeed loved very much. This is just my opinion and of course doesn't mean anything. I am here if anyone is in anyway facing some of the same things I have faced and dealt with in my life. I am only 37 and have lived a lifetime. LOL