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I AM SO EXCITED OUR HOMESTUDY WAS APPROVED ON MONDAY, WOW A WEEK OR TWO SOONER THAN WE EXPECTED. NOW WE ALSO FOUND OUT THAT WE HAVE BEEN MATCHED WITH TWO SISTERS, NATIVE AMERICAN DECENT. I HAVEN'T MET THEM YET BUT CAN'T WAIT. UNFORTUNALTY WE HAVE TO WAIT UNTIL ALL SW MEET AND THEN HOPEFULLY SOON. I JUST WANTED TO LET EVERYONE KNOW.
I DO THOUGH HAVE A QUESTION? IS IT OK THAT WE LET FAMILY KNOW ABOUT THE MATCH, EVEN THOUGH WE HAVEN'T MET THEM (THE GIRLS) YET. WE TOLD OUR PARENTS AND FEW SIBLINGS BUT NO ONE ELSE SEEMS TO BE AS HAPPY AS WE ARE. :( IN A WAY THAT IS KIND OF DISAPPOINTING, BUT I ALSO READ TO EXPECT THAT FROM OTHERS. I WILL GLADLY EXCEPT ANY ADVISE.
WELL I HOPE ALL IS GOING AS GOOD FOR OTHERS AND HOPE TO HEAR FROM SOMEONE SOON. I WILL KEEP ALL POSTED.
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Well, that was quick!! So, tell us more: had you identified these girls before your homestudy was finished? Did you go with a private or county agency? Are you aware of ICWA (Indian Child Welfare Act)? Have they asked yet what kind of cultural support you can provide? We too are in the "Dating Game" part of the matching process on a Native American child.
Regarding telling family: follow your heart. We were first homestudied last November, and found a teen that looked like the perfect match for us. We told all of our family over the holidays....and then it didn't happen. This time, we are more guarded. We let family know that the girl's sw is considering us, but we didn't go into ANY detail than that, other than her name. For us, it is too early in the game for details, because we haven't been selected yet. When something is more positive, we'll let them know more. Also, this time, no one needs to know the girl's diagnosis. It's tough enough to deal with the "older foster children are so messed up" fallacies, that we will keep her problems private, unless someone is doing respite for us and has a need to know. Otherwise, I don't want people pre-judging her even more unfairly than the "foster kid" image.
We have found that others are not as excited as we are, because they all figure the fost/adopt child will burn down the house, be cruel to the animals, mistreat our bio daughter, etc. Don't depend on them to be as excited for you. Come here, and let us get excited for you!!!!!:D
Best wishes, and check back with us and let us know about your journey; it helps us all learn, and helps us all deal with the adoption process.
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You know when we first told family that the sw has as an option for these girls and that we were the first, i was really excited but the more people i told i less of a response. So i only told family who asked. I still can't wait to met these girls. I talked to my sw on tuesday and she said that within two weeks we should be able to met them.
we are in the process of moving and i really want to fix the girls room up but i know i should wait, just in case it doesn't go through.
well i will keep everyone posted.