Fostering to adopt, dishonest???

Z&Z I will give you a big amen to that!!!!!!!!! Our adoption day was GREAT but I too was grieving for my kids mother. She was a wonderful mom when she was clean but could NOT get off the drugs. When she was sober it was great but those times were few and far in between. She did not abuse my kids physically or emotionally. It was more like neglect due to drugs. The living conditions were so bad, I can't describe it. The bad part is she never had a chance due to the family she was born into. I hope if my kids decide to contact her when they are older we will all be able to peacefully coincide like one big happy family. My husband does not understand why I feel for her but I guess it must be a mom thing!