Unfortunately most people that get into foster to adopt do NOT do it that way and it causes problems.
please show me the statistics that support that statement. while i agree that SOME people do foster-adopt because of selfish reasons, for you to say that most of us do is ridiculous. that child comes first.. NO MATTER WHAT I WANT, i will do whats best for that child.. and i will support that child's right to live with his/her bio mom and dad IF THEY CAN TAKE CARE OF THEIR CHILD.
YES, MY ULTIMATE GOAL IS TO ADOPT AN INFANT... but do you even know why i chose the foster care route? do you know that i come from a very wealthy family and that if i really wanted to, i could go to mommy and daddy and ask them for 10,000 dollars to adopt a child and they would give it to me in a heartbeat? do you know that the reason i am choosing to adopt a foster child is because i want to help? DOWN THE LINE we plan to adopt an older child... but right now we want to adopt a baby. THAT IS OUR CHOICE and i refuse to let you degrade it. i want to adopt a baby through foster care AND I UNDERSTAND THE RISKS.
i DO want to adopt a child with a low risk of going back to the parents. but if the parents can get their act together and can properly care for the child, then i would be HAPPY to return them to the bparents. yes, i would be sad... but in my heart i know that the BEST situation is for a child to be born to a family that loves and cares for them properly.
my intentions are ANYTHING but dishonest. especially when you consider that the STATE OFFICE flat out told me to go the foster-adopt route.
yep, things were different years ago. but this is 2004 and my state office is strongly pushing me toward foster-adopt. if i do decide to go that route, i am following the advice of my cw.