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My husband and I are going to be starting PRIDE classes on Saturday. I still don't understand all of the ins & outs of adoption in our state. I've also heard that the paperwork is approx 40 pages. What if we accidentally check the wrong box or something? Is it true that we may have to wait up to 5 years? If so, will the case worker keep us informed? Sorry for all of the probably silly questions, we're just a little frazzled about it all. We know that this is what we both want and are looking forward to becoming parents but it all seems so confusing. Any help would be appreciated. Thanx!!!
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Welcome to a long and winding road. We were very fortunate and completed our classes in May, had one infant by august, and 2 newborns a month later. They are all siblings, and they are all mine! It was difficult, but ohhhh the rewards!
What age group are you looking for? How many? Race? Are you wanting to Foster/Adopt, or Adopt only? Are you willing to take handicapped children? Mental and or physical?
There are so many variables, you can never put a time frame on getting children in your home. My advice to anyone just coming into the system is this...Only accept what you KNOW you can handle. Don't be afraid to say NO to the workers. We said no several times before we said YES! And I am so glad we did.
If you want to talk more let me know, I know several foster parents in Arkansas, and have been there myself. Good Luck!
T
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Thank you sooooo much. I've been hearing alot of negatives and not very many positives. We would like a child under 5. Race is not really a factor and as far as handicap and illness, I don't really believe that I can handle anything severe right off of the bat. I'm doing a ton of soul searching about that very question as we speak, have been for months. Again, thank you for making this earthquake of emotions seem a little less shaky. - T
You're very welcome! I felt the same way as you do, but in the end when I saw my babies for the first time I knew that they were for me, handicap or not, I didn't care. One of my twins has Cerebal Palsy, but the way I looked at it was you don't know what problems your bio child could have and in my soul these were my children from the first time I saw them. They bring so much joy to my life, I am the luckiest mother in the world.
When the time comes and you meet different children you will feel in your heart and soul what you can handle. My husband and I only felt at the time of starting classes that we only wanted one child. LOL! It is amazing what happens and what you discover about yourself when YOUR child comes into your life.
I don't think I am explaing myself well...I kind of ramble when I talk about the feelings I have for my children. Sorry if I am confusing you.
What part of Arkansas are you from? E-mail me sometime, I love to tell people about my story, the good and the bad.
T
We are looking for a biracial child to adopt here in Arkansas. Do any of you have any leads on any workers that might have some children to place? We want young 0 to 5 years old. Robin4350@yahoo.com Robin
We finnished the class in march and just got approved on the 28th of this month. Our paperwork kept sitting on supervisors desks until we called an area manager. Our case manager is really nice but I think that all of these DHS workers are overloaded. I enjoyed the class and I hope that things start going a little smoother.
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