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Hi there Birth mom's. I am an adoptee and I have always wondered if my Birth mom thinks about me on Aug 14 of every year??????????? I hope she does because i know i think of her often on Aug 14th.
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Hang in there Shortie:
I searched for a very long time. My search wasn't easy and it really tested my patience - I was searching from one side of the world to the other. I felt like giving up several times over the years but said to myself nothing ventured, nothing gained and just kept on going. I really had no expectations on what reunion would bring - after so many years my focus was on searching...I overlooked the fact that there may eventually be a reunion.
I was very lucky as my birthfamily welcomed contact.
My birthmom thought about me often over the years...she said there was always a piece of her heart that belonged to me. June was always a difficult month for her. We have been reunited for over a year now - she went on to marry my birthfather and had three more children so I found a ready made bio family - pretty awesome really.
You just don't know what you may find - be prepared for the worst but do not discount the fact that it may be a very positive reunion. One thing that always kept me going too - it was better to know something/anything, good or bad than to know nothing at all.
Take care and I hope that one day your search will come to an end. Good Luck.
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Thank you all. You have all made my day a bit brighter. sorry it took me so long to post back. Hadc to work the night shift.lol usually I only work in the day when my sons in school . Been a long summer already.lol Again thats for all the encouragement. Gotta hit the hay work @9am tomorrow God bless and have a great day:)
i just thought i would also add my reply, i guess my story is a little different. i am not sure my son was adopted at all i dont even know if he is in foster care.. i just know that when he was one i got into some trouble and had my rights taken away... that was 16 years ago. i think of my son day in a day out evry holiday every b-day everynight befor i go to sleep and every morning when i wake up... so see yes everyone is different but just knw someone out there is your bio mom and just maybe when you r thinking of her she is also thinking of u..... keep your head up and smile................p.s. you birthday is coming(aug14) mine is to aug21) HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU......
Thanks for the kind words of encouragement. And happy Birthday to you aswell. All i know is that every Aug 14th ithink of her . We have a court mediator now and shes doing a court search. I have to write a letter to mu bio mom with no ID info in it and lord knows thats really hard. I am a leo Which in turn i want to tell her all about me and my family..lol
I know that you will find your birth son if you have hope and even though the situation of why he was taken was sad, there is always hope:) And you just remember that you too need to Smile and keep your chin up as well :) Feel free to drop me a message anythime crazytam ok:) God bless and have a wonderful night
Crazytam,
You have a really sad story, I'm sure that is your rights were taken, they probabley placed him for adoption if they could. He is probabley doing fine, right now. I feel for you, I too, know the sadness of wondering how your child is, and what they are doing. All I can tell you, is he will soon be 18, and you will be able to try to contact him then. Not that it helps alot, but at least it will give you a chance to tell him how you feel. I'm sure it will be alright, and keep writing, you never know, he could be reading these forums now, even if he can not get the info to contact you. I know, that alot of adoptee's do that, so get your story out there, you never know what will turn up.
Colleen
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yes thats what i have told told.that because he was so yough at the time that he was most likely been adopted... it might sound mean but i hope he was. i hate the thought of him in foster care all these years, good that would just give me something eles to have to explain... all though i dont mind and dont have any intention of liying to him about anything. i guess the the hardest part for me, i think about it all the time and know that what happened was all my fault and its way to late to make up for.
i am going to be 34 on this Saturday.
The court Medartor does a search and tries to make contact with my bio mom. Because in the State of Washington I can not have contact with my bi mom until the mediator has contact to ask her if we can have contact. If my bio mom says no then my search ends there and will not go any father. I guess when you start a state search from were you are from they would have a CI to help with the search and help with the contact.
Have a good day time for a cup of java:)
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Yeah its kind of a pain however its what I have to do to try to find this lady:) And lord knows I am from Seattle so ya know how much we love our coffee out here..lol Thank god for espresso stand on every corner.lol I am not sure if all states are like that however it may be easier in your home state. They have orgnizations in all states like WARM here in Washington State. How knows she may have been looking for me. Not likely however its always worth a try. Have a great afternoon.
Shortie(nickie)
yeah i here ya when it comes to the coffee, i cant live without it.. although i have never once had a expresso...lol kinda funny huh......... its still to early for me to look for my son yet he is just 16 but in two more years,,, dont be negative when it comes to your bio mom you might be shocked to find out she is looking for you...
crazytam(tammyjo):)
I am so very excited to find my bio mom. I am trying to stay positve, However i am not going to get my hopes up. Espersso is really good if you ever come to Seattle i will buy you one..lol Well we are getting ready to go to Ocean Shores. Taking our family on a little vaction.lol god help me i am the only girl......lol i am in big big trouble..lol Maybe i can escape to the Beach....lol So its bye for now i won't get to be online for 4 days..lol. lets see if i can make it...lol
See ya later Nickie:)
I have a whole other side - I was 17 when I was suddenly pregnant - not by choice but I decided to make the best of a bad situation. I decided to have my child and place him for an open adoption. I delivered a boy and named him Glenn. I had the parents picked - they knew I was in labor then it all went wrong. Glenn didnt survive the delivery and I'm really not sure why. That was 20 years ago and I can tell you that I think of him every day - and visit him on his birthday, and pray for him and cry for him. I also cry for the family because I wasn't alone when I lost him. They lost as well and I feel so bad for them still. I have never met them but I did have Glenns orgins donated to help other babys that had complications or trouble at birth. That gives me some hope that somewhere there is a person with his eyes, or his heart and because of him they are here - that is what I hold on to. Please dont hate the birth parents or have ill feelings - there are so many stories and views and they are all different. I hope this eases your pain some - I think of him daily.
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Being a birth parnet of children that were adopted out 20 years ago I can assure you that if your birth mother has the same feelings for you as I have for my children there will not be a day goes by that she will not think about you. I can assure you that it is especially hard around birthdays and the festive seasons. I hope you gain some comfort from knowing this and that 1 day you and your mom may meet.