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And I need help doing it.
My name is Sue and I am trying to find both of my birthparents ( for medical and family tree info) and I would like to find out if I have any younger siblings.I have been told by many that this will never come to be due to where and when I was born. The only names I have on my birth certificate are of my adopted parents.
This is all the information I have on them that was given to me by the Childerns Center in Hamden,CT. I hope someone here on the board might be able to help me find them or how to find more info on them.
The non-Identifying information for the birthparents
Of Susan Gilman Williams, D.O.B 3/18/1964
Susan: You were born on March 18th, 1964 in Boston, Massachusetts. You were a full term birth and were described as a normal, healthy baby. When you were one month old, the Dr. following your progress noticed a heart murmur. This condition was followed over the next several weeks and was not deemed to be serious. You were placed with your parents, Barbara and Edward Williams, on July 8th, 1964 and adopted by them in Suffolk Probate Court in Boston on October 13th, 1965. Your parents pediatrician was given a full report of your prior medical care.
It seem that at least three different agencies were involved in your early life. Your birthmother first approached the Church Home Society in Boston, Mass and they were the agency that counseled her and made the arrangement for your placement with a Connecticut family. When your birthmother signed the legal papers surrendering you for adoption in may 1964, your legal guardian became Family and ChildrenҒs Services in Stamford, Connecticut. The Childrens Center was the agency that home studied your placement in your family until your legal adoption by your parents was completed.
The reason for placing you with a Connecticut family was that ғ no adoption home could be found for the child in Massachusetts. A suitable home and family were found in Connecticut. By the time of your legal adoption, you were described as a ԓvigorous, healthy, well-developed female child. Your functional heart murmur was of no concern and did not limit your activities in any way.
According to our records, your birthmother was an unmarried young woman of 19 Խ years of age at the time of your birth. She was from Massachusetts and was said to have been approximately 55Ҕ tall, with brown eyes, dark hair and olive complexion. She was of English/Scottish descent, and you were her first baby. Your birthmother completed her junior year in high school. We do not know her religion, but The Church Home Society was an organization established For the Care of Children of the Protestant, Episcopal ChurchӔ, so she was probably of that faith.
You were not given any first or middle name on your original birth certificate, and so your birthmother may not have chosen these names for you. In most of the correspondence between ourselves and The Church Home Society you are referred to as baby girlӔ followed by your birthmothers last name. One piece of correspondence refers to you as ғ Lou Ann but I do not know whether this is a name your birthmother chose for you later on, or one The Church Home Society gave you while you were in their care.
Your birthmother said your birthfather was 5Ԓ7 tall, weighted about 160#Ԓs, had light coloring and was of German descent. She said he had completed high school.
This is all the non-identifying information we have in your records.
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Sue,
Because you have your non-ID info, I see 2 routes for you to go.
1. petition Suffolk court to open your file. If you have a valid medical reason it is not impossible (but by no means guaranteed). Call DSS at (800) 543-7508 and tell them you want to petition the court. They will give you a name and number at the court, and that person will tell you the procedure. In Essex I had to send a notarized letter, but in Suffolk it may be different.
2. Go back to the agency and see if they offer other searching resources. I'm not familiar with The Children's Center, but it is possible they will search for your parents for you (likely for a fee, if they will do it at all). At a minimum I think you would be able to put a waiver on file, so that if your biomom also placed a waiver, they would swap your contact info. Worth looking into.
I'd start with the petition, as it's free, and go from there.
- Matt
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its pretty bad when you can go to a websight and find out about death row inmates and everthing awefull they did. But its so hard to find out about blood relations. I find that pretty disturbing.im an aunt searching for my nephew born june of 1982 and they wont give me any info.He was adopted through okc ok. dhs.heck they wont even tell me if they handled the adoption.i think all adoptions should be public records,open to all.I know there are all different kind of circumstances, But if they made it public records maybe there wouldnt be so many accidental births. I know that wouldnt work but just a thought anyway good luck to all those who search............
Dear Sue,
I was adopted through Catholic Family Services. I first began my journey to find my birth mother by contacting the probate judge that handled my adoption in the town that my adopted parents lived in. I was advised of the "right to know law" which was fairly new at the time (I met my birth mother about 7 yrs ago). I went to Catholic Family and began with the non-identifying information. I was then able to "apply" to make contact with my birth mom. Catholic Family actually contacted my birth mom to get permission for me to contact her. We have been in close contact ever since. I hope this helps.
Sincerely,
Jill
Originally posted by mfuller1971
Sue,
Because you have your non-ID info, I see 2 routes for you to go.
1. petition Suffolk court to open your file. If you have a valid medical reason it is not impossible (but by no means guaranteed). Call DSS at (800) 543-7508 and tell them you want to petition the court. They will give you a name and number at the court, and that person will tell you the procedure. In Essex I had to send a notarized letter, but in Suffolk it may be different.
2. Go back to the agency and see if they offer other searching resources. I'm not familiar with The Children's Center, but it is possible they will search for your parents for you (likely for a fee, if they will do it at all). At a minimum I think you would be able to put a waiver on file, so that if your biomom also placed a waiver, they would swap your contact info. Worth looking into.
I'd start with the petition, as it's free, and go from there.
- Matt
Originally posted by auntyvicky
its pretty bad when you can go to a websight and find out about death row inmates and everthing awefull they did. But its so hard to find out about blood relations. I find that pretty disturbing.im an aunt searching for my nephew born june of 1982 and they wont give me any info.He was adopted through okc ok. dhs.heck they wont even tell me if they handled the adoption.i think all adoptions should be public records,open to all.I know there are all different kind of circumstances, But if they made it public records maybe there wouldnt be so many accidental births. I know that wouldnt work but just a thought anyway good luck to all those who search............
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Originally posted by jill a
Dear Sue,
I was adopted through Catholic Family Services. I first began my journey to find my birth mother by contacting the probate judge that handled my adoption in the town that my adopted parents lived in. I was advised of the "right to know law" which was fairly new at the time (I met my birth mother about 7 yrs ago). I went to Catholic Family and began with the non-identifying information. I was then able to "apply" to make contact with my birth mom. Catholic Family actually contacted my birth mom to get permission for me to contact her. We have been in close contact ever since. I hope this helps.
Sincerely,
Jill