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If you knew before the birth that your child was going to be lost to adoption please answer. How close was your child born to your due date? This is for mothers who knew their baby was going to be lost before the birth. I have a theory I would like to test so as many moms as possible need to answer. I will be checking back frequently.
Happy Birthday to my baby girl
Jacqueline Ann
11/11/83
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I chose to "place" moments after I "knew" I was pg.
I was induced by choice on my due date. My older daughter who I parent was 3 weeks overdue and still no signs of labor. I didnt want to do that again!
Here also is a link to my story.
[url]http://www.birthmombuds.com/showcase_michellew.htm[/url]
I might not be correctly answering your question simply because my daughter was never "lost to adoption." IMO that would be a fate much like leaving her in the mall's lobby unattended, or perhaps using her as the side bet in a dice game and that was not what occurred. I lovingly and carefully made plans to have her raised in a Christian 2 parent household during my 2nd month of pregnancy; she was delivered 4 days before her estimated due date. BTW: We were reunited 11 months ago and she doesn't see herself or her situation as "lost" either. Perhaps you should rewrite/re-word your question in order to get the variety of answers you desire. JMO. Tara
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I made adoption plans for my 2 children about 3 months before birth. My son was born 4 days late, and had to have emergency c-section(breech position). My daughter was born 1 day before due date , c-section also ( breech position also). The dr. neglected to tell me that i have a uterine abnormality (bicornuate uterus) that makes it impossible for the babies to turn once they reach a certain size.
As an adoptee, a few phrases that I see used on the forum have particularly bugged me. The first is the reference that the adoptee is "a gift" given or received and aparents should be "grateful". A child is NOT relinquished for adoption as a gift. A child is NOT relinquished as a "favor" to aparents for which they should be "grateful". Another is the statement "lost my child to adoption". I agree with Byngee 12, that would be "much like leaving her in the mall's lobby unattended, or perhaps using her as the side bet in a dice game and that was not what occurred. " I personally do not believe any relinquished child is a result of oops ~ I lost my child!
Thanks for making it clear that the phrase "lost my child to adoption" does not reflect your feelings.
Lost. No. I have known and have always known where Munchkin was/is and would be/will be. I took great care in placing my daughter in an open adoption plan that took me a great deal of time to come up with. I chose adoption round about four months and was matched somewhere around six/seven.
As for my due date:
I was in preterm labor from 29 weeks on, only keeping Munchkin in utero by the means of terbutaline (oral and injected) and once by magnesium drip. She finally arrived two weeks early when she convinced my water to break.
And, your point is...?
Yes, I'm wondering what this theory is, too...
I made an adoption plan while I was still pregnant. (Went to the agency undecided in first trimester, settled more firmly on adoption second trimester.) I still wasn't matched with anyone when I went into labor ON my due date. M was born 20 hours later, the day after her due date.
I chose parents for her about 2 weeks after she was born, and they picked her up and brought her home when she was almost three weeks old.
M was not "lost" to adoption, she was placed with wonderful parents who love her, cherish her, and honor me by maintaining an open adoption agreement.
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