tell them - please

What happens in 16 or 20 years when the child goes looking for you , his dad and then his grandparents? The physical part of the event is over. The responsibility portion is never over and in this case, belongs to your boyfriend. We all have our loads to bare, you gave birth for heaven sakes, and he needs to grow up and face his family, like a man. I will tell you now, that in the next few months, 23 years after his birth, that my birth son plans on showing up on this birth grandparents door step ... They are in the early 70's at this point, and highly visible members of their community - What on earth was their son protecting them from? a Heart Attack ? Embarrassement? Too late now... If his birth father was smart, he would tell them before he shows up at their home. I don't know what the outcome will be, but as a parent myself, I would prefer that above all else, my children be honest with me. I know NOT to treat their decisions, however I feel about them, with disrespect as my mother treated mine when I chose life and adoption over the other. This is one of the most important parenting lessons I have ever learned.