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Hello I am new at this but i just wanted to know if anyone can relate to the way that i was feeling over the last couple of days. I met my new love eight mths ago and I was still trying to work things out with my husband. He became a really good friend and supported me through my hard times. I desided to leave my husband because i just couldn't take it anymore and i relized that the love that i had for him had faded and has been gone for some time now. I left five mths ago and decided a found out a month later that my friend cared for me much more than i knew. I made sure that he knew where i stood and that i wasn't looking for a short turm relationship if any. Well he has been very honest with me throughout the whole relationship and has really shown me that he is ready to commit and marry. We became pregnant three mths ago not trying to, but God alowed it to take place even in the mist of our flesh. Well we've come to accept it, because we both have a two yr old and i have a four yr old as well so it was a overwelming. It was a test of how much he really loved me as welled. Well he passed because he loves me even more and he plans to go no where with the help of God almighty. Well my question was i did consult my husband and let him know that i had become pregnant, he knew i didnt wnt to continue the marriage because of x amout a reasons and and that i wanted to move on. I felt that i was obligated to him so long that the last couple of days i was going through emotional changes so i went and ask him to forgive me for what i had done before our divorce was final but he said he couldnt forgive me and i notice that he hasnt really forgiven me for anything so I was really hurt and I still for some reason felt that i needed to make his pain go away inorder for me to be free of hurting him. Is this normal, or am i just loosing it. God has forgiven me of my sins i just hate that horriable feeling that it causes me to cry.
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Are you still pregnant with this other man's child? He wants nothing to do with this child? Will your husband stick by you with this baby? God forgives and this happened for a reason. If you want to chat, email me passo8@aol.comConnie
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I can't relate so much but can give you a different perspective. Yes, certainly God does forgive us when we repent of our sins. The key is repentance though. There is a deeper issue here and I think God is working on your heart with something right now, but His will might not be your will. I think you need to focus on your new baby coming and your plans for him/her. Focus on your children. Personally, I think there needs to be a time of healing for you and your children without a new man in your life (I know, here comes the lashing from others). My concern is that your boyfriend has become a band-aide to some of your emotions and perhaps has given you yet another reason to move forward with your divorce. I certainly believe God is gracious to you and merciful, but as far as where His blessing will lie, I just don't know. You have a lot on your plate right now and I know your boyfriend seems to care for you. How much of it do you feel is the newness and infatuation though as you've only known him such a short time? IMHO, I think if he really loves you, he will allow you some space to work through what you are dealing with and appologize for stepping in at a vulnerable time in your life when you were still married. I know this is not what you might want to hear, my intent is to give you a different perspective that many might be too afraid to give you. I trully wish you the very best in working everything out. I think it probably took a lot of courage to tell your husband of what you did and ask for forgiveness. I totally commend you for that. You have a precious new baby coming into the world. In your difficult time, focus on that and your children :). God's best to you.
Ladicha- You're going through a ton of changes and want reassurance from any sources you can get. Your ex was, in the past, a person to turn to so you turned to him instinctually but there really hasn't been time enough to get over those kinds of things. Not even for you. This may sound hurtful right now but I don't think you should approach him about this subject. The fact that you've moved on and are building a new family will be like salt in the wound.
The kindest thing you can do is not rush him through the grieving process associated with divorce. You know you'll see him for the 2 kids visitations. Be pleasant and unimposing. And pray for him that he can find peace and forgiveness.
Beyond all of that, you need to focus on you, your current relationship, and your family. Work through forgiving yourself and deciding what to do for your future. Your exhusband can't help you find these answers anymore... but God always can.
Peace be with you -- Janet
I thank you for your comments for that is so true I relized that I have found peace with my self because I have focus my thoughts and mind on God. I relized he is the only one that I need to focus on and he will direct my paths. It is amazing that he always answers me when I think I am alone and I am confused about things. He either would reveal himself through my dreams or through the pastors measage. I just thank you all for giving me your kind words when I was feeling down and alone those days. Continue your prayers for me as I pray for all.
THANKS! :)
I thank you for your comments for that is so true I relized that I have found peace with my self because I have focus my thoughts and mind on God. I relized he is the only one that I need to focus on and he will direct my paths. It is amazing that he always answers me when I think I am alone and I am confused about things. He either would reveal himself through my dreams or through the pastors measage. I just thank you all for giving me your kind words when I was feeling down and alone those days. Continue your prayers for me as I pray for all.
THANKS! :)
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