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[font=Comic Sans MS]Well after repeated attempts at getting a loan and failing, compliments of a bankruptcy in 1999, we have decided to stop torturing ourselves and give up. Since I'm close to the cut-off age of 47, I'm 44, the plan to simply save to cover the cost of an international adoption from my wife's home country will take too long. Just the cost of getting started is steep. We live in NV and apparently there isn't much international adoption going on here. We need $1400 application fee to the agency that has a program in the Philippines and then another $4200 to a different agency here in the state to cover the home study and post placement fees then the INS fee of $755 for the I-600A application and fingerprinting.I wish all the rest of you all the luck and support in my heart.[/font]
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So...it's FREE to adopt if you foster first?!? Holy cow! I've been getting myself all worked up and worried about costs!After getting married, my husband and I both discussed and discovered that it has been a lifelong wish of both of ours to adopt a child. We wanted to have a biological one of our own first though, and did a year ago from this coming Monday. We're wanting Faye and brother/sister to be about 2 1/2 or 3 years apart, but don't want to adopt a baby any younger than 6 months or any older than 3 years. When would be an ideal time to start the process?
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Best of luck,
Karen
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I just want to add that more and more babies are being placed through foster adoption. Research carefully and know your risks, but sure is the most economical way to adopt. Besides, it feels so good to know you have saved a child from a life of impermanence, moving from one foster family to another.
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Is the risk worth it though? You foster a child and would love to adopt him/her only to find out that the birthmother gets her back or someone else adopts before you. That's what happened to someone I know.
We did foster/adopt and our only costs were $1400 for the lawyer. In fact, the state paid us while we were in the fostering phase and my company reimbursed us the $1400 for lawyer fees. Our son's adoption was free! There are lots of things to think about before going this route though. Please take a look at the Foster/Adopt thread on this site. . .
My wife and I live in Vegas and are in the process of wrapping up an adoption for our little girl. We went through the Foster to adopt program here in clark county. We will end up having to pay 20$ out of pocket for the adoption. We are so excited. I will give a word of warning, not every foster to adopt ends up like ours did. Also if your going into the foster/ adopt program and want a 2 year old girl that where's a size ten and can tap dance and knows all the words to my way.... then this is the wrong program for you. Kids come in all different shapes, sizes, needs and colors. Be open if you go into this program.
[FONT="Century Gothic"][FONT="Comic Sans MS"]I thought I might repond to the foster adopt information given. Foster to adopt does not always mean the child is adoptable. Most of the time you will have these children for only a few days and/or a few months to just give them back to the bio parents or bio family members. Sometimes you will have them for up to a year or more and then the judge decides to give the bio parents or family members another chance to be parents. I have seen some adoptions through foster care and they happened to wonderful people who waited a long time, but I have also seen children come and go. So if you are not prepared to loose these children after becoming so attached then maybe foster care isn't the route you want to go to adopt. Foster babies/children are in the foster care system for a reason. The ultimate goal is to reunify them with their bio families.[/FONT][/FONT]
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Yes there is always a risk a foster child could end up going back to their birth parents. But there is also a risk when you adopt domestically that the parents change their minds and then you end up starting over. We are adopting through the foster care system. Right from the very start they knew we wanted to adopt(fos/adopt). They would only place children in our home that were adoptable. Yes there is still that chance they could have gone back to their birth parents, but they didn't. We now have two very active twins who are almost 14 months and their adoption will be finalized next month. We also know a lot of others who have adopted through foster care. Either way you decide to go you take a chance. Life's a chance
And for those of you that say you cannot get a baby through fos/adopt that is not true. Sometimes you need to wait a while, but they place babies all the time. My friend adopted two little girls at different times and they got them both when they were 2 months old. And our Babies were only 11 days old when we picked them up at the hospital.