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I was just curious as to who was able to bring their children home at the same time.
We began Londy's adoption a few months before Jeremy's and were able to bring her home a bit earlier. It was nice to have that individual "getting to know you time". But I think her homecoming was bittersweet in that we were still very concerned and anxious about getting Jeremy home.
What were the challenges/benefits in your experience?
Kim
Hi Kim, we brought both of our daughters home at the same time... and they were fourteen months apart in age. It was an immediate challenge in that we had a 4 month old and an 18 month old all at once. However, even though not biologically related, the girls lived in foster care together and I think coming home together helped their transition in that they still had this familiar face. We did not have time to even think as we were so busy learning (first time parents) but it was fun and the most amazing experience. I think both ways have their advantages but we saw nothing really bad about picking them up at once.
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We brought Eli and Nic home at the same time. Nic was 6 1/2 months and Eli was 8 months. They lived with different foster families. Even though it was pretty rough the first couple of months, I am glad we brought them home at the same time. I am glad we didn't have to leave one infant at home with a relative while we travelled to pick up the second child. That would have been hard I think. I was very thankful that our attorney was able to get both boys thru the court process at the same time.... It certainly saved us time and money.
Jen :)
We brought Alex (@17 months) and Scott (@6 months) home together mid-January...it's been both a joy and a trial. I'm a SAHM now...and Alex (now 18 months old) bonded instantly with my dh, but is still rather reserved with me...I've graduated from persona non grata to "babysitter" but still not Mama...I think the transition would be faster if I wasn't so busy caring for the baby...but it sure is nice to have him love me and has made it easier on me...my feelings are quite hurt sometimes, to have so much love in my heart for this little guy and he doesn't return much of the affection.
We were told that if the cchildren are biologically related, they must be adopted at the same time. Is that what all of you were told, too?
We were told that if they were siblings that they would have to be adopted together...however, mine are not biologically related.
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