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Originally Posted By bm jamiemy semi-open arrangement has been such a positive experience.My bson had just turned 1 year old.Since the placement I have had 1 visit on neutral ground .I waited until after he was legaly adopted for the visit to give them a chance to bond as a family.I will have a second visit this winter also on neutral ground.I think that the bmother needs to know her boundries & talk to other bmothers that are in the same degree of openness to be informed on exactly what a bmothers job is .I feel that my job as a bmother is to show my son my face wich in turn will give him his face when he looks in the mirror.I will let him & his family know that I love them unconditionaly & that love is forever.I will also answer his questions & try to fill his void as much as humanly possible through words ,photographs& videos.I have recently taken my camcord into my old home where i grew up as a child & video taped it for him inside & out.One day in the future he will see this & know exactly where I lived as a child.When will he see it?I don't know but it is in my home waiting on him along with many other videos that I have been filming to keep in a safe place for him.I just want to fill his void as much as possible& I think that that is my job as a birth mother.
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