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i am so over the moon it is unbelievable!!
my 19th birthday was on the 7th of january this year, so it hasnt been very long. i always knew that i wanted to find out who my mother was. so i sent in my required forms back in december, with the help of my parents who are very open and willing to help.
for the past 3 months i have been waiting to hear something from the registry office in newfoundland. i have called them 3 times since my birthday enquiring if they had got onto my file yet...they hadnt and said they would let me know as soon as they had. so all i had been expecting was a phone call to say "hi louise, just to let you know we have now opened your file and are beginning to search for you...thanks bye!" but that wasnt what i got!
i got in from college yesterday afternoon and did my usual check to see if there had been any post for me in the week (i live away from home at college in the week) and NO there wasnt any letters for me from Newfoundland. oh well. for some strange reason i decided to check the answerphone and there was ONE message waiting, i pressed play and walked off through the house only to hear a canadian voice asking for me to call them back. so i did.
as i said, i only expected to be told they were opening my file. about 2 minutes into the conversation the lady on the other end of the phone told me that she had searched for my mother and had FOUND her and had been speaking to her. as soon as she said that i burst into tears. i could not believe it. someone who only ever exisited in my head was actually real, someone was confirming that for me FINALLY. that seems a funny description, but you may know what i mean!
she continued to tell me that my mother was now married with THREE kids, 2 boys of 9 and 11 and a girl of 14. WOW! her husband knows about me, but her children dont and she does not feel it is the right time to tell them about me. she wants to wait till they perhaps in their late teens. which i said was completely fine and i understood. i was told that inspite of this, she had called THREE times in the past few weeks after the initial phone call telling her i was searching for her. hearing that makes me so happy. its like, she didnt just call the ONCE, but THREE times she thought about me.
the lady told me that my mother wanted me to know that there were no health problems in her family. she had asked the social worker to ask me all sorts of questions, how tall i was, what i looked like, my interests, if i had brothers and sisters, if i was happy. the usual you might expect i suppose. i could hardly get my words out! i answered as best i could.
i was told that my mother had said that she would like to communicate via letters, or that she would set up an email to speak to me through if i had access.
the phone call was about 20 minutes long, and at the end when asked if i had any questions for my mom- i didnt! i was in complete shock, there was no way i could think of anything.
the social worked said she was going to call my mother and pass on the information that i had just given her (including the fact i now live in the UK rather that NFLD!). and i will be receiving another call on monday when i have got my head together. hopefully by then she will have spoken to my mom and i will be able to get an address or email to get in touch with her.
i cant believe it has happened so fast and, so far, sucessfully. i dont think i am over the initial shock yet to be honest. i have waited and wondered for 19 years, and suddenly i find out i have 3 half siblings! and that it SEEMS that my mother wants to get to know me, or at least have some contact for now.
i made sure i made it clear to the social worker that i was very happy and i had definately had the best life i ever could. i dont want my birthmom to feel bad at all, or worry.
my family are very happy for me, but as you can imagine a little upset i think aswell. but im obviously not going to run off to newfoundland or anything, they are my family and always will be.
i just needed to share this story, to maybe give other people some hope! :)
Lou x
That is fantastic news, Lou. Speaking from a Bmom's perspective, I KNOW every tidbit you feed her will be important and reassuring. Good luck on your journey.
"K"
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Congratulations!
It's too bad you'll have to wait to meet your siblings. My 2 younger 1/2 sisters are 13 and 11 now, and I met them 2 years ago. They always knew about me, and were THRILLED to have another big sister (we have a 30-year-old 1/2 sister as well). I can understand your bmom not wanting to get their hopes up, though, before she knew she could find you.
Enjoy getting to know your new found family!!