Siberian Adoption Story

OMG- how awful. What channel was this on today?

I think Discovery Steph.....I saw this last September and blogged about it back then, but I didn't realize that the episode was so many years old at the time! The whole thing was very hard for me to watch.... The entitlement and the concern that the child would one day turn on them was probably the most offensive to me. It seemed like they wanted gaurantees and unquestioning loyalty from their daughter - and contact with her first family I don't think qualifies.....

I saw that the Siberian Adoption Story was going to be on again yesterday, (4/2/09)....but I COULDN'T watch it!! I TRIED for about 5 seconds, but when I saw the blond woman, with the 'husband' who looks like her (surfer) son?,....I SURFED OFF to somewhere else. And frankly, I forgot about it....So when I saw an email about it in my INbox this morning, I was sur- prised! I wish you guys would do UPDATES on the stories that you broadcast....THAT would be FASCINATING to watch!! Barb / NYC

Ok First of all let me just say that I am considering adoption as I have always wanted to adopt, but I have just started doing the research, so forgive me if I am a newbie. I saw the adoption story today and I wanted to gag. The woman with the brown hair was so thrilled to get her baby and kept saying how she was meant to be in her family and whatnot, but then that blonde lady kept acting like she was babysitting or something. Like some of you have said she said things like "Well when it is YOUR kid..." and at one point the husband says "It doesn't feel like OUR kid" and when they went to look at her to see if they wanted to accept the match the looked at her as if they were picking out a show pony not a child. Then they kept saying they weren't sure if they even wanted "it". AND HOW SUPERFICIAL!!!! the blonde was like "um I think if she was in the sun she would be blonde" and then she said "what? I'm just saying...I think she would be" Then everytime the baby cried she wouldn't comfort her she would act like human being who has never touched a child before let alone a veteran mother. OH and how she cussed at the camera like her day was just soooo terrible. Babies cry. Thats what they do and mothers do what they can to help. I bet that baby girl was crying so much because she could sense how NEGATIVE that couple was. I'm sorry but when they went out for drinks when the paperwork got screwed up did anyone hear what the dad said? He was rambling about what he was going to say to the judge and then he said something like "yeah I had to sell my house for the kid , but yeah I sure do love it" all the while rolling his eyes and smirking sarcastically. I WANTED TO PUNCH THEM!!!!!!!!!!!!! I feel like they are the type of people who would genetically alter their children to be a certain gender, have certain eye color, hair color, etc. if it were available to them. UGH I could go on forever about them. Then she asked the other adoptive mother if she felt like she was taking care of someone else's kid and she answered "well no not for me. she feels like she is mine" and then the blonde made up some excuse for why she didn't feel motherly toward the little girl. I better stop now before my head explodes:hissy:

That beautiful little girl won't have to watch the show...she will LIVE it EVERYDAY! Kind regards,Dickons

I just happened upon it and as a parent of a lovely daughter we adopted 21 years ago - I was sad to hear such ugliness about the potential curiosity of a child. My sister gave me a piece of art when we adopted and it was lost in a house fire but I remember the point of it was the question which is the child a product of, which parents and the answer was simply both, just two different types of love. It made me cry at the time and angry as that woman on the show made me, I wish I had it to send to her.... for that little girl's sake.

Ugh! I just watched this for the first time this morning and I was so shocked at what the blond woman was saying! When she said, "oh, we'll definately be coming back (to Siberia)...but she'll (the baby) have blond hair an a tan when we return." AHHHHH!!! I wanted to scream! Her baby just has to fit this mold that she desires no matter what. And when the husband was joking around at the dinner table about how he "works his *** off, but sure, I love this baby!" He said it like he was joking that he actually loved the baby! The whole thing made me sad. I'm sure they'll do a decent job and I don't think they will neglect or harm the little girl but you can tell that the blond lady wants a little mini-me.

Is this the poem you mean TLC? Once there were two women who never knew each other. One you do not remember, the other you call Mother. Two different lives shaped to make you one. One became your guiding star, the other became your sun. The first one gave you life, and the second taught you to live it. The first gave you a need for love. The second was there to give it. One gave you a nationality. The other gave you a name. One gave you a talent. The other gave you aim. One gave you emotions. The other calmed your fears. One saw your first sweet smile. The other dried your tears. One sought for you a home that she could not provide. The other prayed for a child and her hope was not denied. And now you ask me, through your tears, the age-old question unanswered through the years. Heredity or environment, which are you a product of? Neither, my darling. Neither. Just two different kinds of Love.

I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting a child that looks somewhat like you as a-parents but specifically "blond hair and blue eyes" is a silly standard to strive for.And the statement by Discovery that more Americans are choosing international adoption is not true, according to Adoptive Parents magazine domestic adoptions are on the increase, not international.I didn't watch the show but it sounds like I would not want to anyway!!

I watched the show the first time it aired and was sick to my stomach after watching it. The lady was indeed arrogant and her hubby seemed like he was just going along with what he HAD to do. I agree with all the other posts on how people saw this couple...because I too saw them in the same light. How lucky to be able to afford to adopt and have a baby and yet they acted with such disgust about the whole situation. I think the worst thing is the other lady who was adopting, her story aired at the same time and I feel like her positive experience disappeared into the background because of all the drama of the other "blond" couple. I feel so bad for her that at a very happy time, she was stuck with this miserable couple and their obvious disgust towards adoption. I would hope if I ever got the chance to actually adopt..that I would be traveling with people who truly felt blessed and excited to adopt..not the opposite. And Yes I also agree with others too that America is not all blonds. I am in fact a brunette and love dark hair. Ironically though... I DID end up with what they deemed the "American" child..I had a blond with blue eyes and also a red haired child with blue eyes and I can honestly say I didn't care what my child looked like, biological or adopted.... Adoption can be very expensive and they as a couple should be happy they were ABLE to afford to adopt..but what child needs fancy clothes, and heated up baby wipes..what EVERY child needs is a loving home with parents who feel blessed to have their child. I too hope that gorgeous little girl is doing well, but as an adoptee myself..I hope she never questions her Mom about her history...yikes! Fireworks galore I am sure! Just have to pray they as a family are doing well...at least for the sake of that little girl!

PS. When I fostered one time last summer, I was a wreck doing that...and in the end..I found out I stunk at it really because he wasn't adoptable....to be ABLE to adopt, knowing that child was going to be mine would have made all the difference to me. I couldn't keep him because down deep I knew he would never be able to be mine, I just felt in my heart If I attached to him, and I was attaching quickly..that emotionally I couldn't handle losing him. To see this lady KNOW this child WAS going to be hers and still act like that makes me sad. No matter how emotional things get, what a blessing and gift from God to be able to find the resources to afford adoption and then be on a show and travel, experience a new culture and find your forever child and then squander that experience away..very sad!

I will never forget that particular Adoption Story. The woman and her husband made me want to spit. I remember her saying she wanted "a little Russian ballerina." I (almost) couldn't believe the arrogance and stupidity. I have wondered, many times since that show, how that little girl fared in that home.

YESSS! Thank you Gabrielle! I will copy it down so I can give it to my daughter (who is now expecting her first child!).

Does anyone know when this originally aired? It must have been several years ago. It would be so interesting to track down this family today to see how the little girl is doing.

I remember seeing this segment a few years ago and almost spitting my lunch across the room with some of the amom's comments. So arrogant, at best. This segment made me remember that *even* adoptive moms can be self-centered, biased and unenlightened. To me, this was baby-selling. I wonder if they ever even told "their" little girl she was adopted. Proof again that the adoption world is as "normal" as ever other aspect of society and includes some wayward minds. susan