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1) What does your bfamily call your child? (birthname or new name)
2) Does it matter to you either way?
3) What do you do if they don't respect your desires?
4) How important is it in the long run?
Bmom knows why we feel it is impotant for her to call our daughter by her new name...she agreed to respect our decision. Yet, since we've told her, she has made a point not to call her by either name. Now she has began to call her by her old name again.
When our daughter called to tell her she is now adopted all bmom said was "Ooohhh" :eek: then when she told her what her new full name was she again said "Ooohh" :eek: , not one ounce of happiness in her voice for our daughter :( , just dissapointment and then irritation. Then, she went on and continued to call her by her birthname.
I didn't say anything, because I didn't want to bring up a fight with my daughter right there. Now, I'm thinking of writing her and setting some boundaries for our phone calls....and possible visits if we have anymore.
I know I have every right as her mother to set up the level of contact we want, and to be respected in our decisions, obviously something she doesn't choose to accept...even though she said she did.
It also makes me upset that she did not put her own feelings aside and be happy for our little girl as she told her that special news...instead she sounds irritated and dissapointed....what kind of message is she trying to send to her. She's the one who choose to sign over her rights in the first place, she could have still fought to get her back(came to us through fostercare).
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