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I know quite a bit about family law. And I would think that he could take you back to court one last time. And after you tell the judge he no longer as any parental rights the judge will more than likely close the case for you. But there's no way that it would be legal for a judge to order visitation to that man, that man is no longer related to your child. The clerks at the court have no idea what they are talking about. They only know normal family law. I know, because they tried to tell me I was in contempt for moving out of state when papers had been filed but the judge dismissed the whole thing because he didn't show up for court. I asked the judge and until there was an order stating otherwise I could do whatever I wanted to. But I'll do some checking today for you. I needed something to do to keep my mind off of my own stuff.

Thanks, I was thinking the same thing, I tried to actually close the case however they said it was not possible. I am just scared of what he would do if he found out about the adoption. He is crazy. I wonder if I actually have to file the adoption decree in the case in a response or if I could get away with just going to court and showing the judge that day. Then I know I have protection when he does find out and my husband can be there.

I know what you meen. I have a couple crazy ex's out there. If I were you I would file a copy of the adoption certificate with the court family law case. That way if you do get served it's already in the file.

I asked a lawyer...and this is what he said. "You do not close a case. It either gets dismissed or goes to judgment. With the termination of father's rights and responsibilities the chances of his being let back into the child's life over your objection is slim... but the court will not close the door on the possibility. He and everyone has the right to challange orders and judgments as the law allows."

I refuse to file the adoption decree in the case before I go to court because I do not know if he will come after us or not once he sees it. I was going to wait till the last minute when the judge and baliff and everyone is present. So the case will remain open but I have to go to court one last time to say his rights were terminated until the judge says he can not order the visitation anymore right.

Right. But that's only if he takes you to court again. I think your right in doing it the way you plan on if he's that bad.

Here is some quick humor for those who are dealing with the adoption process and need some. My BF called yesterday and asked for her social security number to put her on his 401K. I said there is no way you are getting that. I said why do you need it anyway? HE said that she is his only child. I said you no longer have a child and hung up on him. Can you imagine the gulls he has to call up and ask for her social security number.

I know...men have some nerve. I went through the same thing with my daughter during the adoption process. He asked for her Social Security number so he could file his taxes for the last three years and claim her. I was like..UM NO! you didn't support her, you are not claiming her. Also he was a thief. So I actually had to get a court order saying that I did not have to give him the number.Have you thought about changing your phone number so that he will not be able to call you. I would and I would make sure it is not listed. I would say that he is more or less just harrassing you. Or get a restraining order on him so that he has to stop trying to contact you.

We are getting ready to move so, I am not going to change my number yet. MEN

I know. MEN. Glad to hear your moving.