confused

July 26, 2002

Hi my name is Christy I am 28 year old female. I found out when I was 12 that I was adopted. When I found out I was devistated. To this day I hold alot of resentment. I know who my birth mother is I was adopted into the family. I resent her very much. I know who my biorth father is but to this day he wants nothing to do with me and he only lives 10 min away. Worst part is I actually met him once in the grocery store I was talking to him in line and he knew who I was I had no idea who he was. My birth mom has a baby girl 3 yrs ago. She is 43 now I was present at the birth and i said something so terriable. I said to the baby look mommy gets to keep you and I walked out. It just came out. SOmehow I am looking to find a closure to all this in my heart. Thier is so much info I want to know but not sure were to begin. I was told alot but also I was lied to alot about alot of things so I need to search on my own hoping to find some truth so I can come to a closure in my life.

Anyone have any suggestions.

Thank you

Christy

Mellie

July 29, 2002

Hi Christy and ((((hugs))))

My words of encouragement are, you are not alone in your feelings. I have known three people in similar circumstances (family adoption) where mom is really grandma and sis is really mom, or mom is aunt and aunt is mom, etc. All three people had a VERY hard time with this, as most were told as you were as a teen or one even as a grown woman.

My suggestion is for you to seek some kind of help, either counseling or group support, even a like kind group on the web etc, whatever works for you. But its very important to work through your feelings in some fashion.

The older woman I knew was a very bitter old woman who could never ever get over the anger she felt towards her momӔ and sisterӔ she always felt like everyone else had known about it and been laughing at her all her life. Dont waste the years she did being hateful.

Please find someone or a group that can help you work through your feelings (when you are ready)

Good luck and (((hugs))) again.

Melissa