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We have a 6 YO bio DD. We are on the list to adopt an infant. We also decided to foster. Since we have a current home study and completed the caregiver orientation years ago, all we have to do is wait for our application to be processed. From what I gather we will be able to accept placements pretty quickly. I want to keep it in birth order and we think a girl will fit in best. I keep flip flopping between 0-4 and 2-4 for the age. We already have lots of clothes/toys that my DD has outgrown, and it just makes sense.
We have a spare room. Should we have it set up with both a crib and a bed? I know some 2 year olds can sleep in a bed, but others need a crib.
Are there any books out there that can help my DD understand what fostering means?
Also any advice for this newbie will be appreciated.
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If you have not purchased either a crib or a bed yet??
I would go with either a crib that converts to a Toddler or Youth bed.
I value sleep a lot, and my husband works 'Graveyard' Shift.
A crib somewhat depending on the child also offers more confinement with a younger child.
I hear you say also 'Placements'??
Would you be open to a Sibling Group in either Age Range?
Bunk Beds would be awesome for Siblings!!
Having a bed and a crib, for Siblings would be very awesome!!
I would ask your Case Manager for children's books.
The hardest component factor with my Kids who are that age with Fostering is.
Explaining if there is Family Reunification.
Why the child is no longer a part of your Family, or the Child's Sibling.
It is then like a grieving process.
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I was thinking of starting with a singleton. We have both a single bed, and a crib and both can fit in the room. My DD will attach but she is also really wise for a 6 year old. She kind of freaks me out with the things she says, because she sounds like a tiny adult sometimes. lol. She will be sad to see them go but I will support her through it anyway I can.
Is it normal for me to be really optimistic one day, and then scared the next? Sometimes I am super confident I can do this, and then others I am terrified I will suck at it. I guess I wont know for sure till I try.
I definitely would get a convertible crib. When we started, our room had one crib and a twin trundle. Well our placement required two cribs. And now we are getting our third crib this week.Don't be shocked if you get calls for siblings. Its the greatest need. I also would do 0-4. We originally wanted 1-3. We currently have a sibligs, 2/1/6wks. A blessing because we want to adopt but crazy cause they are young :-)
I definitely would get a convertible crib. When we started, our room had one crib and a twin trundle. Well our placement required two cribs. And now we are getting our third crib this week.
Don't be shocked if you get calls for siblings. Its the greatest need. I also would do 0-4. We originally wanted 1-3. We currently have a sibligs, 2/1/6wks. A blessing because we want to adopt but crazy cause they are young :-)
I think I will stick with the crib and bed set up as I plan to take singletons at first. I will re-evaluate in the fall if I want to take sibling sets. I am thinking I may open the age range to 0-4 because I have everything I need for that age range. I am still scared sometimes, and then ready to take on the world others. I guess its the fear of the unknown.
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I think I will stick with the crib and bed set up as I plan to take singletons at first. I will re-evaluate in the fall if I want to take sibling sets. I am thinking I may open the age range to 0-4 because I have everything I need for that age range.
I am still scared sometimes, and then ready to take on the world others. I guess its the fear of the unknown.
It truly is the fear of the unknown. Just stand your ground regarding placements because often emergency situations often last longer than the original date given. And reach out for support when needed. I was truly unprepared for a traumatized toddler. But thanks to the Ladies here, I knew to request help. Nearly a yr later, everyone remarks what a changed little girl she is:)
It truly is the fear of the unknown.
Just stand your ground regarding placements because often emergency situations often last longer than the original date given.
And reach out for support when needed. I was truly unprepared for a traumatized toddler. But thanks to the Ladies here, I knew to request help. Nearly a yr later, everyone remarks what a changed little girl she is:)
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In our State we have foster and concurrent(foster/adopt) placements. When you are straight foster, you can receive an emergency placement that can turn into a foster/adopt situation. Emergency placement could be short term placements while family is being contacted or vetted. I would ask your placement team.