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This question has nothing to do with an adopted child. This is my bio child. She is nine and was diagnosed last year with ADD/ADHD. I took her to a developmental pediatrician because there were lots of things about her behavior that seemed odd to me. I'll give a few examples. Asking her to go upstairs and get her shoes. She heads off upstairs, comes back ten minutes later, no shoes, no clue why she ever went upstairs. Constantly talking out of turn. Constantly talking in general. Walking into the family room where several of her siblings are watching something on TV and changing the channel with no regard to the fact that they were happily watching something prior to her entering the room.
The list is really long so I won't give more examples. anyway, she does fine in school because she is extremely bright and "compensates" according to the pediatrician.
My problem is the toll it's taking on her self esteem (and the rest of the family). The neighbor kids tease her, her sisters usually avoid playing with her and yes, even I avoid her and snap at her because she is in my face constantly talking and talking, asking questions that she already knows the answer to. She just seems sort of socially "clueless".
Does any of this ring a bell with anyone or do I sound nuts?? I've read a bunch about ADD/ADHD and haven't found anything that seems to address this exactly. I did figure out that I am definitely ADD and have been my whole life (go figure). Can anyone offer any suggestions??
Thanx,
Martha
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One of our sons is very much like this. He doesn't have ADHD or SID. Our other son has these issues so I know what to look for.
Anyway Om has defiance issues. He will do what he wants, when he wants. So if he doesn't want to put on his shoes when it's time to go to karate he will take 20 minutes to do so. He's the slow motion man. When it's bedtime we ask him to go get on his pull-up, brush his teeth and go potty. I'll find him 15 minutes later still walking up the steps at a snails pace. He is also very controlling of people and situations.
But if it's something he wants like dinner or going out for icecream he'll be the first one ready and waiting and want to know why everyone else is "LATE".
Our solution has been telling him what happens if he's slow. He looses that same amount of time in a fun activity later. We practice being faster and faster. At karate the other day he got into trouble because everyone else was on the floor waiting for him as he took 15 minutes to take off his shoes. The punishment at karate was extra pushups and situps (I know he'll think twice before he does that again).
He is very bright, is 4 yrs old and learning to read very well. Is super talkative, as been since we got him at age 2 1/2 yrs old. He'll do his homeschool work for me without any problems at all. And he's done in record time and everything is PERFECT. He is a perfectionist with things. His room has to be perfect, his clothes, everything nice and neat and folded. It bothers him to see an unmaid bed, our solution let him make it and get over it.
I am very against medicating children so young. I know a lot of people do, but we just prefer to use behavior modification. And it works for us.
Hang in there,
LeenaB