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I gave up my bson for adoption in 1983, I am now married to his bfather and have 2 daughters 15,20 . I have been searching since he turned 18, about 1 1/2 yrs ago I found him. the agency contacted him and told me he was going threw a stressful time and it was not a good time. Last week I received a call from the agency, they told me he contacted them and would like to have contact with me and that his amom didnt think it was a good time when I first contacted them. I have been waiting 21 yrs for this and now it is a reality I am scared. I always thought about him, I have have always loved him, I am afraid of scaring him off now. What do I say,How do I address myself, his sisters, his bdad. I know he is in college, what an awsome thing. Yet I dont want to be a disapointment to him.
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I know this is easier said than done but try not to stress too much and most importantly just be yourself. Last year I found my son but in my case he had actually been searching for me - he's just turned 24. Subsequently I was totally unprepared for reunion and I do remember the feeling of sheer panic. I do understand that feeling of being scared and being afraid of scaring him away as well. Take things slowly as you have plenty of time to get to know him and let him take things at his pace.
Good luck and I'm thinking positive thoughts for you!
Pip :)
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