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im 20 and 8 months pregnant and didnt want to do an abortion. me and my bf decided to do adoption instead (that was back around april or may) but ever since i told my parents they have been saying that i should keep it. my bf on the other hand says that adoption would be the best way right now, seeing as we're still pretty young and not ready for kids. my mom phones every week to see how im doing and to see if ive decided on what to do. shes happy for me and is excited about being a gandma. my brother and my sister are even excited about being uncles and aunts. my moms is being pretty supportive even though she lives far away from me, she wants me to keep the kid and move out with her so she can help me raise it. my dad is semi-supportive, he says he'll help if i decide to keep it, but says he'll be "severly pissed" and disown me if i give it up for adotion. my bf is still set on adoption, and i think that'd be the best way too, but now im faced with my parents maybe never talking to me again (this is the first time in like 6 years ive talked to me mom) and i really dont want that. my bf means the world to me and i dont want him to leave cause i let my parents pressure me into keeping the kid. this has been goin on for about 2 months almost and as u can probably guess im incredibly stressed out and have no idea on what to do, someone please help:(
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Have you received medical care during your pregnancy? If so, and if you trust your doctor, I would ask if s/he would refer you to a counselor so you can discuss your feelings about the pregnancy and your dilemna regarding your family feeling one way and your bf feeling another way. It is a stressful time and I am sure once you sit down and really think about the pros and cons, and evaluate your hopes and fears in the situation, things will become clear. Good luck!
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You and your boyfriend are the ones who are going to be the ones caring for the child 24/7. If you feel that this change is what you want in your life and what you can handle, then you should keep it. If not however, and you feel that adoption is best for YOU (not ur parents) and your boyfriend, then that should be your choice. I understand how hard it must be with all of the pressure from your family, but they should try to understand your feelings and needs. Maybe you could try some type of family counciling to get everyone on the same page. Good luck, I'm kind of in a very different situation. If I told my mother she wouldn't even want me to continue with the pregnancy. I'll trade you.. haha. But seriously, wish you the best of luck.
It is a full time Job taking care of a baby! My 17 yr old Daughter found this out and then gave temp custody to her boyfriends family when the baby was here with me! So I just lost my Grandson and my Daughter! My husband wants a baby! I want one but do not want to go back throu 9 months of missery! You have a hard choice just talk with a cousler they are in the schools and dig deep in yourself as well!