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This question is primarily directed at anyone that was adopted as a preschool age or older child. I would some assistance based upon your experience.
Background history...I am nearing the adoption of my third son. As with my prior two adoptions, this precious guy was placed in my home as a foster placement. When my older two sons were adopted, I retained their first names, but changed their middle and last names. Now along comes Son #3, who is now 5 years old. He has lived with me for approximately 18 months and we have been discussing what adoption means and some of the changes that occur with adoption. He is very excited about having the same last name as the other two boys and me.
Here the issue...he wants to change his entire name. I am very split over this. On one hand, this is something that his parents chose for him. On the other hand, he is named after someone that elected to not even attempt to work a caseplan. Thankfully, this is not a decision that has to be made in the next month. However, it will need to be done within the next six months.
Did anyone request a name change and have your adopted parents agree to it? If so, what was your rationale and are you still satisfied with your choice?
Thank you!
Sam
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I was adopted at age 5 also after my mom married my adad at age 4. I remember being adopted, I wanted to change my last name. But I think it would be a huge mistake to change his first name at age 5. He will be so upset later in life because I actually wish I didn't even change my last name back then.
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Although I don't remember anything before the age 4, my name was changed from Michelle to Anna Maria. I am happy with that but my Bfather, to this day, will call me Michelle & it really irks me. I've told him many times my name is Anna Maria but does he listen? no!! (sorry if I sound frustrated). Also, I am having some issues dealing with the relationship between my Bfather & me. Where would I go for some advice?
:p msannab, if you need advice you're in the right place. You can just post on the forums. Or you can always seek professional help. I'm waiting for a repsonse from my bdad as we speak. He will have gotten my letter yesterday. And I often think...so when I meet him, if I do, then what...what do I say. Will it be awkward? etc...So I'll probably be coming to you for advice at that point. :)