guidelines for monitors

Okay~I am throwing out a suggestion. Guidelines for our behavior as a monitor. I thought it was a common sense type thing, but I too have been few overwhelming situtions. I have searched a bit on the net, and bolded and changed some wording from other sites. These are my suggestions..not the rule, my suggestion! Common Courtesies There are common courtesies to follow when in chats. Following them will put you and the chat room in other chatters eyes as being cordial, polite, and a nice person. Some of those courtesies are as follows. First, be kind to chat room newcomers. These people usually are not sure of what to do and will be a bit unsure of what to say. Be friendly and welcome them into the chat room. two, do not abuse your power if you are a chat room monitor or a very well known regular. Just because you may know more than the others in the chat gives you no right to lord your intelligence or popularity over everyone else's heads. You have to be respectful of other chatters if you frequent a chat room regularly. If you are just dealing with someone who is in disagreement over a comment of yours, you can pretty much remedy the situation very cleanly by being polite and ask them why they disagree. Now if you are in the wrong over your comment then be cordial and apologize about what you said. These are two ways to effectively diffuse a potential "flame war" between you and another or more chatters over something very trivial. When people are not behaving themselves (according to the chat rules, not yours)please discourage other chatters from ganging up on them like ravenous piranas and deal with them appropriately. Perhaps, pming, instead of a public flogging. Please remember, that not all newbies know the adoption terminology, for example: triad, or acronyms for them, (SW, OBC and nonID) I understand, no sometimes we can NOT all get along, but for the sake of this chat room, we as monitors need to be even MORE respectful and understanding to others. :grouphug: So I put myself back into the little hot spot under the magnifing glass... :eek: :grr: :cheer: I fall back on the fact, the reason I am here, 1.I love being a mom, and foster to adopt made that possible 2. This chat room is safe(as safe as internet chat can be), and I may be able to tell others that the pain of infertility, and being a parent is still a possibility. 3. I learn about the other sides of the triad, and the multiple facets of this triad. If I am learning, then others may too, and knowlege is a good way to change the stigma of adoption. :thankyou: :thankyou: :thankyou: :thankyou: