Re-Starting a Failed Reunion

Also, has anyone else here re-started a reunion after a long break like this? Why and what happened? Thanks again.

Also, has anyone else here re-started a reunion after a long break like this? Why and what happened? Thanks again.

I have not personally resumed a relationship, but it does happen. Sometimes, because people are older and hopefully everyone is even more mature than they were before, the reunion works. Other times, the problems that existed the first time still exist, and it fizzles. If you want to try again, you should. Unless your mother asks you to leave her alone, you can try and keep on trying. As long as everyone remains alive, there isn't an expiration date on reunions.

I frequently find myself agreeing with L4R. I definitely agree with the above. There are no guarantees, of course... the "fizzle" you described from your first period of contact might end up being permanent. But you won't know unless you try. If you WANT to reach out again, I'd say it's worth doing. And I wish you good luck.

I have tried to re-start relationships that fizzled. Sometimes I eventually get a response followed by a fizzle again. I've been guilty of non-response, also, at times, if I'm busy and forget or just not doing well. I also suggest trying again, but I would say do it with no expectations.

I am in the middle or restarting a reunion that laid dormant 18 years. I was the one who broke off contact after 3-4 months contact and I handled it poorly by just not calling anymore. I was 20 years old when I met my bsisters and bmother, only talked to my bmother for 28 minutes on one occasion and it all freaked me out at the time (I was 20). A few years ago my mom passed away and I felt as though I was able to reestablish contact with a little less guilt, so I used my wifes fb account to see if I could find them and it was easy. I then made my own fb account (I had avoided it for years because I was not sure how to handle if they contacted me and life was busy). So far one of 2 bsisters I initially had contact has responded, we chatted back and forth for a month or so (we all live fairly close, me suburban them urban) and I visited with her family at a sporting event and it was good. My other bsister has not responded though the one i'm in contact with talked to her and my bmom about me, I have to assume she is hurt by the way I ran away from them when I was 20 and I haven't pressed the issue through the one im in contact with because I don't want to the the source of friction. My birthmother accepted my fb friend request but hasn't received my private message, I told my sister im in contact with and she told me that my bmother probably doesn't know how to view them and that sometime this week she'll go over to her moms and show her how (the anticipations killing me) my bmothers just turned 70 (her birthdate is on her fb page is the only reason I know) i'm 38 and I finally feel ready, when I was 20 I was too immature. I'm trying to handle each of them separately, they're all aldults with their own lives and I really don't want to make one of them mad at me and have the rest close me out, after all they've know each other a lot longer than they've known me. Tough part of all that is the fact that I have some tough questions I want to ask my birthmother, I just don't know if I can bring myself to ask them. I was not "given up" for adoption, I was put into foster care for neglect and there are 2 other sisters that were also adopted that someday I would like to meet who refused contact with my birthmother and the 2 sisters she raised (she got custody of the 2 oldest back but all five that existed at the time were taken by the state). I also have a younger bbrother (I am the second youngest of 6) who was never in foster care, but I've been told by the sister i'm in contact with that he is a heroin addict, met him once very briefly (we both said "Hi" once) and we look so much alike it's not even funny (freaked me out more than I can explain, didn't look like anyone else growing up and well it's hard to explain) I don't know that I want to deal with him. The whole restarting things is hard, I hope I can carry through with it, it's really like doing it for the first time all over, i'm not a patient person but i'm forcing myself to take it very slowly.