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We had out first visit with Bear's grandmother today. We have an open agreement with his mother, but she seems to be on the run again. We have decided based on today's actions and reactions that we are going to honor the open agreement terms with his grandmother. I was just really surprised at how she was SO comfortable with us as his parents. She called us both mom and dad and expressed how he seemed so happy. She was impressed with his development and just had a real respect for boundaries. It really is our hope that she can maintain this, because in the long run we think it will be good for everyone. Funny thing is that I was actually scared to death last night. Since you just never know how these things will turn out, it is nice to have that positive interaction.
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What a great experience with the grandmother. I'm very sorry that the birthmom is unavailable. It must be difficult. It's so great that you are keeping communication and contact open with the grandmother. I agree, that this will be beneficial to all, especially Bear. Congrats on the first visit!
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That's such great news. My parents are always very respectful of J&D's boundaries, often asking me if it's okay to send a birthday/christmas gift. Of course, it's okay, but sometimes she needs the reassurance. So, if she seems to back off once in awhile, just offer some reassurance that you are so glad she is there.So happy it went well!!!! :)
We have our second visit this weekend. From here it starts to be about every 6 months. The last one was a "goodbye" visit thru the state department. I am not sure how it is going to go. She is wanting to start including other people in her family. Although we are going to let her bring her son this time (he is younger than bio mom who is 15) we are going to be pretty limited on this. We don't want to be involved in a family reunion every six months.