20 and pregnant

Ashlee, that's good news. Ok, take one thing at a time. Figuring out ending your lease, and all the other loose ends you have to tie up. I would suggest making a list of everything you have to do, and make a plan of attack. Figure out which things are the most important and put those to the top of the list of handling. See which ones you might be able to wrap up over the phone. Set some time aside to make phone calls. I completely understand when things get overwhelming. And panicking about money. Believe me, I get that. For me, it helps to have my "laundry list" of things to do and it helps me feel less anxious if I can see it on paper for some reason. It doesn't stop me from worrying, but it keeps me from being overwhelmed with worry. I hope this helps even just a little.

Hmm because we're human. I didn't know we were supposed to agree on everything.

I just wanted to reiterate what Numbr1 said - please call a clinic that performs abortions and talk to them. I can probably guarantee you aren't the first one who had difficulty coming up with the money to have an abortion. I'm sure they can guide you in the right direction.

I am sorry that you are having a rough time. I got pregnant at 18 and had an abortion. I am now trying to have a child at 31 and we are having problems. I know you might be scared to tell your parents, but you never know how they might act. Have you though about adoption? There are agencies that you can even choose your birth parents. I know the agency we are registered with you can. Please let me know if you need to talk. What state are you in? Does the father want this child?

We maybe human, but here we are on a we site that was created for adoption support. I am speaking from the heart of a Life Mother, others are speaking as Adoptive parents, others has Former Abortion patients, and then the Unplanned Pregnant Woman. We all are different, we all have different veiws but I think about 95% of us on this site would do anything we could to save that baby right now from the impending death that it is facing. Is it my body, no so I cant choose, but everything in my cries out for what that baby could have been if it wasnt a miscarriage. Dont attack me, I have lived my own hell for the last 3 months and have 17 years and 9 months to go before I see my baby again, but I see him again, someday.

Just because we are all touched by adoption here doesn't mean that we all share the same views when it comes to reproduction and a woman's choice.

No one's attacking you as far as I can tell....

wow...this is a heated topic for sure....but glancing through it, it seems posters at times are forgetting about ashlee...she needs support for whatever she decides...as i read on another thread whatever she decides is life altering....i've had friends who have parented and those who have had abortions so, although i've not gone through it myself, i've been privy to the outcome of two choices...the bottom line, ashlee, is for you to take care of yourself..mentally and physically...choose whatever you choose because it will bring you peace not because it is the popular choice could another thread be started regarding the abortion debate?

Im a little on the offense still, the last few weeks have been a bitter pill to swallow, I have had some life changing events happen in a very short time and I dont know how I have handled them all. Im wont be sorry that my heart is pain for loss of innocent human life. I wont tell her its wrong it isnt my choice. But i can pray and hope that this baby get one more day at life or gets a peaceful death in a miscarriage. Ashlee, may you only see one set of footprints right now as he is carring you thru this. May you be in peace.

Dear Ashlee,I hope you are starting to work this through and your situation is improving. I have been following the postings and truly hope that you feel supported in your decision. Your post above really hit home for me. Not knowing the relationship that you have with your parents, please forgive me if I am speaking out of ignorance. Last year my daughter experienced an unplanned pregnancy. Although I suspected that she was pregnant for 3 months, she could not bring herself to tell me and her dad. I finally confronted her (big scene) and she told us. Yes, I was stunned, but it was such a relief to be able to comfort her and help her. I asked her why she would not tell me and she said "because I did not want to be a disappointment to you and Dad." The most important thing that I learned this year (and maybe through all of my years of being a mom) is to accept my children as human beings - not "perfect" products of their upbringing. Since then I have made it clear to both my son and daughter that they are not responsible for my happiness. Yes, your parents will feel disappointed when you make mistakes, but because they love you, they should understand that you are just a human - like them. :grouphug: I will be thinking of you. Happy G'Ma

no i do not wish to to go the adoption route....i've made that clear throughout the whole thing, i had thought....and yes the father wants me to go through with it...

I'm very sorry that you've had a rough week, really I am. However, no one was attacking you. No one is expecting you to apologize for your feelings or beliefs. :flower:

Ash?If you dont miscarry and dont have the abortion in time, please promise that you wont leave this baby in a trash can some where. I know that alot of states have safe haven laws that parents can take a baby to a hospital or police or fire station and leave it and never get in trouble. My neighbor is a nurse and she made the comment to me while I was pregnant that she would rather see me get the proper healthcare I need and place the baby then hide or deny it and then throw in a dumpster to die. By you not being able to come up with the funds that scares me that this baby may end up in a trash can, please promise that this baby wouldnt end up there if it was born healthy and alive? May God give you peace right now.

Am I reading this right?! Good grief...

Sorry folks - second close - so it's closed for good.