scared and alone

I am a birthmom, of a 29 year old. there are services out there that can help you. Have you thought of contacting a pregnacy care center near you? Even though you feel alone right now, there are those who can help you. Take your time to make a plan. You must live with your choices the rest of your life. I am in reunion with my son. It was a long 28 years. But it was the best choice for me in '76. things are different now. Allow your self time to think. Is your family supportive? take care, Sally

Welcome to the boards! I just wanted to let you know that our Terms of Service do not allow any prospective adoptive parent to approach you through these boards to solicit. If any one emails you or PMs you from here saying "we'd love to adopt your baby" or "please consider us" or anything else like that, please contact either myself or one of the other Community Moderators ( crick, MrsSmith, leaabc123, tigger27 and our terrific admin, BrandyHagz) It is our job to ensure that everyone here is made to feel welcome and is respected. Since private messages are just that, private, the moderators do not know if such solicitation is occurring unless it is reported to us. So, if by chance you are approached via PM in such a manner, please let myself or one of the other moderators know so that we can deal with it. We have a lot of great women on these boards who have been in your position. I hope that you can find some comfort, support and advice from them!

Princess,Financial hardships are often temporary. If you're saying that you have no money right now I would assume you are eligible for state assistance. Please research that and take advantage of it; that's what it is there for. There is no shame in it. As for it being fair to your daughter, children are resilient. YOU may think it's not fair. SHE may love the idea of a sibling. (Though, 2.5 year olds vary from day to day; lol.) I encourage you to spend a few weeks researching all of the options available to you. Ask here if you don't understand something or if you're hitting some road blocks. There are MANY successful single Mothers on this forum that can help out. You are NEVER alone.I'll be thinking of you.

I know this is easier said than but try to keep calm for your own health and for your daughter. Searching for help, advice and support is very important for you at this time. Whatever you eventually decide on be sure that you have come to this decision without pressure or coercion. My heart goes out to you and my prayers are with you. I haven't been in your position yet I know there is a fountain of support here for you. Pip :flower:

Princesscandie, Right now it may seem hopeless. It's a lot to think about. You have three options legally available to you. You can terminate this pregnancy, you can give birth and raise this child, you can give birth and place this child with adoptive parents. Understand that each of these options has advantages and disadvantages. For some, terminating a pregnancy has not been problematic for them, for others, the effect was more devistating. Same with raising, same with placing. There is no one 'best' thing to do here, just what is best for you. I would recommend you find someone in your life whom you trust but who does not have a 'stake' in the outcome - someone who is unbiased, essentially. This could be a professional counselor, good friend, religious leader, whomever you're comfortable with, to help you sort this out. I will say this: The best reason to place is that you are not emotionally or socially able to do so. It's OK to feel that way, BTW. Others are right - finances can change. Children who are placed in two-parent homes do end up being raised by single parents. Life, as they say, happens. Listen to the quiet voice in your heart, because that's where the universe speaks. Take care, hang in. Regina

Hey I'm a B-mom of a 10 month old... Let me tell you that fanchal heartships maybe be tempory but at the same time they may last for ever... My choise to place was one that I made with Gods help and in no way would I ever take it back... I find myself sometimes feeling bad but then I think about what our lifes would be like and then its like ok... I'm feeling sorry just couse I want the best of to worlds but that wouldn't happen any how... If your not goign to parent then there are sooooo many wonderful familys out there that would love to rase your child in Gods glory... I don't know if your a Christen or not but I know thats hes the only way I made it thought this time... Kathy

I wasnt in your spot exactly but close. I was raising a three year alone and found out I was pregnant. I waited until I was close to 7 monthes to start looking for a family and I did place for adoption. It was the best thing that I could of done. I can tell more of my story and tell you where find some help if you need it. May you find peace until then.