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Originally Posted By AndySure you can, but it should not come that far, you need to be open about it, let them know if you feel that it is too much. Our bmom has to come during the week now, cause we only see dady on the weekend, so we can not have bmom here on those day's, she understands, she lives only 20-30 min away, and she wanted a lot of contact. It's been ~2.5 month we have not seen or heared from her - most of the time they get on with their lives, work, other children they may have but it is compforting for her to know that she can come - and she knows that they are doing just fine.
Originally Posted By (Shannon) Tyler'sBmom8-31-2000I am a little unsettled about some of the responses I see here to the original question! First of all there is no mention as to how much the bfamily is actually visiting. Secondly it wasn't mentioned if she has ever been told that you think it's too much or if you've kept it to yourself. Third, there is no mention of mental instability in the original post. Please everyone before you are so quick to judge and "assume" the bmom is unstable or "may do harm to your family" please get some of the basic facts. We birthmoms cannot read minds and we NEED aparents to tell us when we are doing something that makes them uncomfortable. IF a bparent truly is a danger then by all means stop the contact but if it's a simple misunderstanding or your own personal fears/worries that need to be worked out that's not something we should be at blame for. I'm sorry if this offends anyone. But all members of the triad need to remember to approach this with all the info and a clear head. Many hugs to you. I have no idea of all the circumstances so I am not going to give you advice about whether to move or not.Shannon