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Hi
Interesting night for me. Several friends and I went to Perkins for dinner(thats about as wild as friday nights get now :p ). Anyway, there was an AA woman there (somewhat resembling our BirthMom), who had a tiny baby girl. The little baby started to cry about the time we were ordering and this Mom picked her up, right in my line of view. It was all I could do not to cry, a whole ton of emotions. I "saw" our BirthMom as she would have been with DD at one month old, and my heart breaks for BirthMom- I know she loves DD and wouldn't have given her up if she couldv'e helped it. That and gratitude that we have DD in our lives, and a little "sad" that our baby is growing up (I can't believe she was ever that little!!), None of these feelings themselves are surprising, but "seeing" BirthMom with DD caught me off guard! If nothing else I was/am very humbled. DD usually falls asleep in the car on the way home after these wild nights at Perkins, but as if she knew I needed a few extra hugs and loves she was wide awake for about 10 minutes after we got home, gotta love it!
I wanted to go over and talk to this lady, but she was eating, and that's just not an easy thing for me to do anyway. Well, leave it to DD to take care of it all for me, she had squirmed off my lap and had been hanging out around my chair, and next thing I know DD is making a beeline straight for this woman and her baby. I caught DD just as she was reaching their table, and since I'd caught Mom's eye earlier I did't want to be rude and say nothing. The kids did it all for me :D - this woman had another daughter DD's age, 15 months, with a head full of beads. The little girls checked each other out, DD LOVED the bright beads! I asked this woman if she did her daughters hair, it was awesome! She said no, but her friend did, and did I need help. I was tempted to say no, didn't want to look "dumb", but I think dumber is being too proud to accept help like this. I honestly was a little worried that I would be judged for not not knowing really well what I was doing with DD's hair. But I often dont' know! So I'm connecting with one of them tomorrow hopefully. Boy for all my work trying unsuccessfully to find the kind of help I want, DD might have just gone and found it herself at Perkins!
Sorry this is longer than I'd intended, and my main reason for writing was the strong reaction to this lady and her baby, it seemed to come in from out of nowhere. Do you guys ever react to moms and babes like this? We've had DD for 15 months now, it's not this is the first AA Mom and Babe we've seen!
Perkins was too much for me, have to go rest now :rolleyes:
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It sounds like it was a very rewarding evening. I'm hoping for that type of connection at some point as well. It would be nice to have a "mentor".
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