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Hello everybody I am a birthmom who has a birth son that turned 3 in December. I would like to talk to other people who have open adoption with older children and what their experiences have been through different age groups!!!! So far so good I have an excellent relationship with my birth sons parents and wish to continue to do so!!!! So any advice would be great!!!
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Hi, I am a bmom of an almost 12 year old daughter. All was well up until September of 2004. These people that I chose for the adoption were aquaintences of my mom and myself. It seemed like a great deal at the time. We got together at least once a year. I got holiday and school photos. Could call anytime or see them anytime. (although I backed off alot to let them be a family) Nicole was told at the age of 5 that she was adopted, and the amom told me that when I was ready, that we could tell her that I, the woman that they seen every year was her bmom. I thought about it and thought about it. I guess I wasted too much time. The amom was diagnosed with colon cancer around 1999. So, what do you do?? I didn't want to intrude on their family during this devistating illness. I wanted them to cherish every moment that they had together. Even in janet's illness, in May of 1994, we got together for one last dinner. Everyone, the amom, adad, Nicole, my husband, my 6 month old daughter and myself. We had a nice time. Well iin September, Janet passed. Now, the adad has pretty much rejected every offer I have given. Not even a school picture. I am devistated!!! I have never felt so empty in all my life! And I don't know what to do. My advice, cherish every minute you have, you never know if and when it will be taken away from you!!!! My thoughts and prayers are with you, and I hope that all goes well with the path that you have chosen!!! XOXOXOXO Lilly