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[font=Times New Roman]Hello again,[/font] [font=Times New Roman]It has been a while since I posted here, so I thought Id say hello so you guys donҒt think Ive fallen off of the face of the Earth! IҒve been dealing with so much stuff in my life aside from this pregnancy, I have barely had time to think about my adoption plans. Both of my kids have been sick, passing whatever is going around the daycare back and forth and back and forth to each other. :rolleyes: Then there is my husband who is soon to be my ex-husband, who is trying to hustle divorce proceedings along because of his new girlfriend. :mad: In the midst of all of this, I still have to work and keep the household going, and find parents to adopt my baby too, which I am feeling is getting more urgent as I approach my duedate. In case you cant tell I have a lot on my plate and feel like IҒm mainly just stressed out all the time with no end in sight. I think once I have parents picked out for the baby, Ill feel more settled, since that is a huge area of stress for me right now. Oh but a friend of mine treated me to a prenatal massage at a dayspa last weekend, and she watched the kids for free too, and wow was that amazing. Too bad my OBGYN wonҒt make massages a mandatory daily requirement, because I could sure go for one just about every single lunch hour if I could! :D [/font] [font=Times New Roman]I spoke to staff at three different adoption agencies but so far havent had a chance to go and visit them or have one of their reps come to talk to me. What personal time I have from work has been full of doctor appointments for the kids or for me, so I havenҒt been able to take a day off and go. Because of this I have been spending lots of time looking at peoples profiles online, and have been corresponding with a few couples. One couple got mad at me that I was contacting other couples, but I havenҒt made any promises to anyone yet so while I am being upfront with people that Im just looking into different profiles, IҒm not being exclusive about only talking to just one couple yet. Ive had some couples (out of state) that have offered help with expenses but I have mixed feelings about that. I have insurance so that is covered, and weҒre getting by on my salary and the money I occasionally get from my ex. (He owes me but thats another story. I never thought when I married him he would turn out to be a deadbeat dad!) If I werenҒt able to work I think I might be more inclined to accept financial assistance but I dont want to feel obligated to any one couple anyway. There have been some people that have been fine with me wanting to take things slow and not jump right into a big close relationship so that is good. I am really nervous about talking to couples on the phone and with working all day and then the kids at night, it is really late by the time I could call someone and IҒm usually pretty beat by then! If I feel a clickӔ with a couple then I think I will feel that I want to talk to them, where so far Ive been comfortable with just emailing.[/font] [font=Times New Roman]So that is where I am so far. I am hopeful that the right parents for my baby are out there and that IҒll find the couple that I clickӔ with soon, so that I can get to know them before the baby is born! It will be nice to have it settled before the baby comes so that they can take her home from the hospital. Here is hoping that they are out there and that I find them soon! Ill keep you posted on how things are going and hope everyone here that has been so kind to me so far is doing well too. :)[/font] [font=Times New Roman]~Katy[/font]
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Katy - I don't know much about your story but what I just read, I wanted to wish you luck in your quest to find a wonderful couple for your child. I'm sure you will choose wisely. Just keep your head on straight and know that you are doing what is best. I myself am adopted and know what it means to be given a wonderful home/life/family. Best Wishes!!!! I'll keep you in my prayers!!
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Katy, I am a potential adoptive parent. I just wanted to let you know you are in my thoughts and prayers. I am so glad I found this board so it can help me to understand a little more what the women considering adoption are going through. I am sending you strength to get through this time.
Hi Katy,I was just reading your previous posts. You are very whitty.Unfortunately, having an adoption plan does take time. And hopefully you will find the right agency/lawyer to work with you and work around your schedule. It will happen, and hopefully be as easy as possible for you.I have adopted my daughter and we are looking to adopt another baby. So as an adoptive parent, I would like to that you for considering adoption and considering the hearts of those who cannot have children. It is so nice to read about.Good luck on your journey. And I hope your household is healthy now.Tracy:cheer:
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So as an adoptive parent, I would like to that you for considering adoption and considering the hearts of those who cannot have children. It is so nice to read about.
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Katy,I remember feeling very unsettled and stressed before I found my daughter's parents. It is such a big decision and you are wise to not let couples pressure you into making a choice that you are not ready for. When you find the right couple, you will know in your heart that they are the ones. Trust your instincts. The right couple is out there and you will find them. Hugs to you and best wishes for good health to you and your little ones!!
taramayrn
Remember Katy it is not your job to make anyone happy or to provide children to infertile couples.
Do you what you need to do not what others want for you to do!
Katy, there will be a family for you out there somewhere. Iwish you well in your journey. Have you spoken to a local religious person who may know of an couple looking to adopt? That is how we found our child in our first adoption. What a wonderful experience that has turned out to be. Just a thought.