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:grr: I don't know if this is the right place for this or not but here goes My daughter is giving me a birthday party I'm not suppose to know about it but she whats to ask my bsiblings which I would love but my Mom just doesn't get it and my son won't even talk about them says I'm being disloyal to my aparnets and my abrother.
If my bfamily is invite I'm sure my son won't come at all and that really upsets me. My Mom will probably come but won't stay and will probably be uncomfortable.Last yr. one of my sisters surprised me around my bday. Why can't my aMom and son can't ubderstand I know I'm venting I don't know what else to do. One of my friends thinks that I should have them but then he's not the one who will have to put up with the fallout
Please can someone gave me some advice
sherrykimball
My daughter is giving me a birthday party I'm not suppose to know about it but she whats to ask my bsiblings which I would love but my Mom just doesn't get it and my son won't even talk about them says I'm being disloyal to my aparnets and my abrother....I don't know what else to do...
Please can someone gave me some advice
It's a Surprise party? Then let it BE a surprise. Let THEM work it out. You might actually BE surprised if they COULD find a way not to have any fall-out. Now, wouldn't THAT be a great birthday gift???? :woohoo:
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I agree, let it be a surprise, and show them just how thrilled you are that whoever is there is there.
Any 'fallout' isn't yours, you didn't plan, you have no say, you just glow about the many wonderful people in your life
Diane
Everyone has one of these situations to deal with at one point in their lives and it may not be as complicated as Bfamily vs Afamily issues but every family has issues and every family has one relative not speaking to the other at one point or another and occasions will come up when there will be feelings hurt and people left feeling a little disloyal to someone.
I think that you just simply should leave it up to them. Fortunately you are not doing the inviting so no one can blame you lol.
I think that as long as those with issues know who will be there they can make a grown up decision as to weather they want to come or be stubborn and not show up to what should be a happy thing.
I really do not know the history behind why your son feels so strongly as he does but he should just do whatever it takes to make mom happy?
Hi Sherry,
I am going through a similar situation...I am getting married. Not for at least another year though...and my family is adamant that my bdad nor his family be there. I think that is wrong and selfish of them....but its still their feelings. When I say this is MY wedding they tell me I'm selfish. My mother is not speaking to me because I will not promise her that she'll never have to see my bdad ever again.
The good thing is your party is a suprise...I say let them deal with it as was said before!
Good Luck and Please let us know what happens!
healingfeeling
I want to thank all that answered I did tell my daughter to do what she was doing to do and let them do what ever their going to. I also told her that I wished she had never told me I'm not a good actress lol
again thank you
Sherry
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