Praying for birthfamily (X post)

April 19, 2006

Does anyone say any particular prayer for their child's birthmom or birthfamily? I pray for ours quite often, and it's fairly freeform but am looking for more ideas on how to pray for her.

Here's our situation:

We know just a little about our birthmom, B, never met her. I think she has issues in her life that she struggles with. She felt she couldn't parent her child, which is why she placed him with us. We think very few people in her family (maybe one of her sisters) knew she was even pregnant (as far we don't know if the birthfather even knows he has another son. They both have other children.

We have a semi-open arrangement, but she lost contact w/ the agency when A was 6 weeks old. I really hope she'll some day contact them and want to look at the letters and photos we send there for her that they keep in a file.

I usually pray for peace in her life and protection for her and strength. The knowledge that her son is happy and thriving. The desire to contact us one day.

I usually pray for intercession from St Joseph, and the patron saints of me, my hubby and son, and Mary. Are there any other good ones? Maybe one of the patron saints of adoption?

Thanks for any input on what I can do or what you do in your own situation!

philly mom

May 1, 2006

Hi Storkwatcher. I pray the Rosary for my son's birth mom. Also, our two older bio kids say a prayer for her every night. When our adopted son is old enough, we will make praying for his bio family part of his night time prayers.

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GCS

May 5, 2006

I include both my children's b-families in their nightly prayers. At the end of prayers we do a "God bless..." and name off our family members. At the end of this I add "and my family in Russia". We dont really know who these people are for my son as he was abandoned at 2, so this is a catch all for him. We have info on my daughter's but I dont call it out separately because eventually it will draw attention to the fact that we dont have it for his.

Christina

StorkWatcher

May 8, 2006

Thanks. I find myself saying bless the birthmother mostly. Then when I think of his birthfather, I add him. Then any half-siblings, then i start thinking about all the other family we don't know about, but who might know about him. And on and on. So I think adapting your catch-all will be a good way to bless his complete birthfamily.

As Mother's Day approaches, I just get teary-eyed, especially in church, thinking of his birthmom and her first Mother's Day since she had and placed him. I know I just can't imagine what it will be like for her, and am praying she knows how much we're thinking of her and what we feel for her.