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We brought our son Daniel home from Ukraine about 6 weeks ago, he was 6 in January. Our other son Ben (who is 5) and he like to play outside a lot. We live in a neighbourhood with several familes that have children around the same age. Ben is used to playing with the other children in their yards or houses and Daniel is usually with him. However, Daniel does not seem to know the difference between what is OK and what is not. He does not know it's OK to play in the yard when the kids are out, but not if there's no-one around. He doesn't seem to differentiate between the yard and the house either. Several times recently he has just gone through the back door of our neighbour's house (only the ones where he plays with the kids luckily). Yesterday, the people next door called us to say that obviously he had been in their house while they were gone as all the toys were out on the floor after they had put them all away. Ben says that he went in there with Daniel and shouted hello, but no-one answered. I have told Ben that he needs to let us know when he goes anywhere and that if Daniel goes into a yard or a house to immediately come and get us, hopefully he will do that. Luckily, this only involves a few houses next to us, Daniel knows not to cross the road and does not do it.
Is this a common trait in children with Daniel's background, he has never lived in a home and I think it's just a result of him never having to set his own boundaries before. I am going to try to find someone to explain this to him in Russian to make sure he understands the concept.
From what I have heard, it is very common for children who were adpoted from orphanges to wonder. There was even a discussion about it on another forum. I will see if I can find it.
Jennifer
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Jane, I could not find what I was looking for regarding children that wonder. There was one thread on FURA where several people said that their child liked to wander but no one had any suggestions to help. I will keep looking though.
off the subject but since I am already here - What are your recommendations for taking OTC medicines and prescriptions to Ukraine? How did you pack them? Thanks!
Jennifer
Jennifer
I have seen a post about children wandering off before, but not about just going into houses uninvited!!! My fear is that Daniel will start expanding his territory and we'll lose him, so I am starting to keep a closer eye on where he is.
I took a bunch of medicines with us, we didn't need any of them. I have asthma/allergies and it was way better in Ukraine than St Louis (not much of a surprise maybe). I would say consider taking pain killers, something to help you sleep, antacids, lomotil/laxative and definitely get your doctor to write a prescription for a broad spectrum antibiotic in case you need it. However, there are pharmacies everywhere and your translator can get you any over the counter thing if you need it. We didn't buy any medicines at all, just took what we had with us. When we traveled in 2001, we bought all kinds of things that were suggested to us and didn't use any of them (we threw them away, it was a waste of money). We didn't take anything for the kids, luckily didn't need it. You might want to take a little first aid kit as well in case you cut yourself/walk more than usual, etc
off the subject but since I am already here - What are your recommendations for taking OTC medicines and prescriptions to Ukraine? How did you pack them? Thanks!
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Hi, Jennifer.
I live in Russia, so don't know if this applies to Ukraine as well. I've been advised not to buy *any* medications unsealed here. Too often what you think you're getting is not what you're getting. That includes rx drugs--some of which are otc here. If you're going to buy it, buy it **sealed**.
I'd bring immodium, advil, allergy meds and some melatonin in addition to the list in the above post. Leaving them in their original packaging is the best course.
Have a great trip!
Kate
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off the subject but since I am already here - What are your recommendations for taking OTC medicines and prescriptions to Ukraine? How did you pack them? Thanks!
Jennifer
Hi, Jennifer.
I live in Russia, so don't know if this applies to Ukraine as well. I've been advised not to buy *any* medications unsealed here. Too often what you think you're getting is not what you're getting. That includes rx drugs--some of which are otc here. If you're going to buy it, buy it **sealed**.
I'd bring immodium, advil, allergy meds and some melatonin in addition to the list in the above post. Leaving them in their original packaging may save you some explaining at the airport.
Have a great trip!
Kate
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This wandering is very normal and may require your constant attetion for a while to point out what is right and what is not acceptable. This just takes time. If you think about it, how would he know?
My neice, adopted at 6, would plunder through personal drawers any time she was at someone else's home. She would also sneak into her own kitchen and take food to stash away in her own bedroom.
We haven't had too many problems ourselves since we brought home a 2 yr old who does those types of things anyway. However, at 2, you expect to "teach" proper behavior. We just have to remember that just because a child may be biologically beyond a stage, if they have never been taught - how do they know.
In a way, it is a reminder to us of the wonderment and innocence of children :wings: