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So I started my home study October 31, 2013 which was our first visit from the CW. It is still going on. I know the process can take up to 6 months but I really feel this person is dragging her feet. I have given her all the paperwork with the exception of medical report which is in process, but every time she meets with my husband it is for 1 hour and almost the same questions as the last visit. I know when we took on this our privacy would be invaded so I am not concerned with any of it. However I did find it strange that this last visit my husband had he was asked questions like "when did he lose his virginity" and other questions that I just find have nothing to do with our choice to foster to adopt. Maybe I am getting all worked up over nothing.
I have had some family members tell me I should go request a new CW. I mean on our first visit we were told to have fire inspection, and room completed along with paperwork and she revisited in 2 weeks. We had everything. She did not want copy of utility bills until the end because she said she would rather turn in current bills and pay stubs and the about a month she was like I need the bills and pay stubs. I told her what she said to remind her and gave all to her.
I am worried that if I go to supervisor that not only will we have to start over but it may somehow discredit us.
Looking for advise. :)
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It depends on where you live. I have heard of many places in which it is common place that they have to ask questions like that, I can't remember the reasoning
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So I started my home study October 31, 2013 which was our first visit from the CW. It is still going on. I know the process can take up to 6 months but I really feel this person is dragging her feet. I have given her all the paperwork with the exception of medical report which is in process, but every time she meets with my husband it is for 1 hour and almost the same questions as the last visit. I know when we took on this our privacy would be invaded so I am not concerned with any of it. However I did find it strange that this last visit my husband had he was asked questions like "when did he lose his virginity" and other questions that I just find have nothing to do with our choice to foster to adopt. Maybe I am getting all worked up over nothing.
I have had some family members tell me I should go request a new CW. I mean on our first visit we were told to have fire inspection, and room completed along with paperwork and she revisited in 2 weeks. We had everything. She did not want copy of utility bills until the end because she said she would rather turn in current bills and pay stubs and the about a month she was like I need the bills and pay stubs. I told her what she said to remind her and gave all to her.
I am worried that if I go to supervisor that not only will we have to start over but it may somehow discredit us.
Looking for advise. :)
When a panel of jurors are selected for a trial, they are asked questions like that. If the trial was about a 14 year old having sex with a 26 year old and you had sex when you were 14, most likely you would not be chosen as a juror because you would seemingly be okay with this.
In this situation, they want to know every intimate detail of your past as it often times can have something to do with your present. This is not to say that if you had sex at age 14 that you would permit a teen in your home to do the same but I can understand why this question is important.
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I hope my home study isn't going to be that invasive...I don't see why it should be. My situation is a little bit unique in that I'm 21 and still living at home (getting ready to graduate from college) and while my parents are going to be the main caregivers we're getting into foster care as a family and will be going through each stage together. I don't want to answer invasive questions about myself, nor hear the answers to those kinds of questions from my parents :P lol
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We were asked personal questions regarding our sex life, and history. I believe they do this to gauge your history, if you answer you lost your virginity at 13, there might be some concern there. Were you raped, molested? You are applying to become a parent of a child/children from a trauma past. These questions are their way of gauging your own mental health, how do you respond and handle answering these questions? Do you have your own unresolved issues that could hinder your parenting?
Once we got to the homestudy process, it went very quickly. From our first class to homestudy and licensing was 4 months, that was including Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years being thrown in the mix.
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It is common to be asked extremely personal questions during the processed of getting licensed. Basically you life is an open book. The question by itself may be odd but when they put all the information together, talk with parents and view the home, they hope to be able to put all the information together to get a good idea of you as a person. I thought that some of the process was so invasive so that it would vet out some people that weren't doing it for the right reasons. As far as dragging feet it does take about 6 months give or take. I would let it play out in my opinion.
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