When did you change your mind?

Renegade I dont believe you can make a true decision until your baby is placed in your arms! Now, thats not saying you shouldnt look into your options of adoption versus parenting early on, I just think that the realization of your child being "real" doesnt hit you until you actually see him or her.....does that make sense? I made my adoption plan for my bson when I was 7 months along, found and met his parents, decided that it was what I wanted and needed to do for my child, however now almost 16 yrs later, I wish I hadnt done it. I was not encouraged to hold my child in the hospital and only saw him twice, I can honestly say had I held him in my arms I would have never placed!!! Please feel free to PM me anytime you need to talkAre you receiving counseling from an unbiased counselor?Do you have a support system? Good Luck in whatever you decide to do and Congratulations on becoming a Mom!

And, Renegade, take your time with your decision. Michelle is right, it's not a bad idea to start looking around and all, but don't feel like you're stuck in case you change your mind when your babe is born. Good luck.

It is often suggested that expectant parents make a decision regarding parenting or placing twice: once prior to birth so that one can plan... and once after the child arrives as a form of reevaluation of circumstance and feeling.I matched somewhere around four to five months.I decided two years after she was placed that was the wrong option for me.