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Just checking to see if anyone has any updates they wanted to share?
Nothing much with us! We finally had a court hearing that has been delayed 4 months. So even though its really nothing huge, its a step in the right direction! We go back in July! For someone who had never been in a court room in my life before March, I'm becoming quite the expert!!
Shannon
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Oh boy I hope you can get that weekend off! :flowergift:
This must be an exciting time for you, the getting to know you part. I'm not even close to that yet, but am slowly making my way there. and I'm with you on the slower driving part, I can't stand to drive fast, even if I want to get somewhere quickly, I can't punch it :drive: .
Good luck!
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Thanks Sunflower :) I really hope I can get the weekend off... I have to call my boss today and ask if he approved it. It's going to be an interesting conversation, considering this is likely the first notice he'll be receiving that I'm going to be off for an extended period of time starting in March... Dawn H.
Sorry ladies, I'm still here! Was busy with my in laws here for 2 weeks, on top of the holiday craze! Still trying to get my house back in order! So far, the clutter is winning! I still have my tree up! There is just no convienent time to get it down and all the ornaments put away with 5 kids running around! I'm picky that everything go back in the right box haha. Other than that, nothing new to report! Just pushing through till we hear whats going to happen with baby...his next court date is 1/25. He will not be going home at that point, but should start transitioning home. The sibs have court on 2/27 and *hopefully* the point where they'll file for TPR. Not sure how long after that we'll have to wait for them to finalize the termination. I personally think its stupid for them to keep dragging it out when the bios are MIA. We are at the year mark on Wed! Hard to believe, seems just like yesterday that they came! We've loved every minute of them! Hope all is well with all of you!
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Dawn H. - Congrats!!!! You must be so excited! We just found out yesterday that we will be getting our final approval within 10 days and then be officially waiting. If you don't mind me asking, what is the matching process like? The worst part of all this for me is the not knowing what to expect! :confused:
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Dawn H. - How are things going with your two boys? I'm hoping you will share what the initial meeting was like, what you felt, how they reacted ect. ect. We are adopting through our government agency. We just got approved and are waiting for a match. Waiting drives me crazy! I have all these different scenarios running through my head on what it will be like when we meet our child for the first time. We have chosen 0-3 for an age range so I have decided if we are chosen for an infant I will take the recommendation that I was given and bring them a stuffed toy to the first meeting that has my scent on it so I will be somewhat familliar to them the next time we see each other. We were also told by our SW to make up a photo album if we are chosen for a toddler. Did you do any of this? Any other suggestions?
Hi all, We met with the boys a week and a half ago. They're great little guys and their foster family is awesome. Unfortunately, they're not a match for our family. They are young for their ages and will require much more supervision than we were prepared for, for a long time. I know it sounds odd, considering most of the people on this site are hoping for babies, but we really have our hearts set on older children. We thought they'd be older developmentally, but they actually need more supervision than our baby. We thought that we were going to say yes until several days after the meeting, but eventually realized that meeting their needs would take more time than we could give while still meeting the needs of our other kids. They're such special little people. Their forever family will be truly blessed. Dawn H.
oh Dawn I'm so sorry to hear they weren't a good match for your family. As much as I'm sure you really wished they were it's good you know your limits and what is right for your family. I just know the right kids are out there for you and will show themselves when the time is right. ((((huggies to you)))))
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Thanks all, I'm starting to get discouraged with this whole process. We're at the point where we've been chosen to parent several children, but have had to say no to the match for one reason or another every time. Usually for the sake of our other children. Sometimes I think that maybe I should take the health risks and try for another biological child before I turn 35, but I just don't want to take the chance of leaving our kids with no mommy. I know we'll find a match eventually, but it's difficult to be optimistic right now. I'm also getting tired of the rollercoaster and trying to explain to people around us why we still haven't found a good match for our family. Oh, well. At least Adoption Day is a good date weekend for dh and me. :rolleyes: Dawn H.
Hey there, sorry to hear the match didn't work out. Please don't give up yet. I know its discouraging. There are days I think I'm the stupidest person ever to sign up for fostering. But then I look at the kids and know that we love them so much and the past year has been so amazing and I know it wasn't a mistake. The emotional rollercoaster is extremely tiring though. How about your family taking a small/mini vacation...just a weekend. Focus on each other and the present. Don't worry about matches, adoptions, anything. Just get away! Maybe you can come back, feel refreshed and ready to jump in again. :dance: