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DH and I have one biological child - a 14 month old son. Due to overwhelming complications and a HORRIBLY difficult delivery (life threatening for both myself and my son), I chose to have a tubal ligation as I thought it better to let my son have a mother rather than risk my life to have another child. My husband and I are contemplating adopting one more child as we think - for us - two may be the perfect number. Question is - do you think it would be better for BOTH children involved (my son and my FUTURE child) to adopt another infant while my current son is still so young or to wait until my son is older and adopt an older child?! I'm a blessed enough to be a work-at-home mom, so daycare costs are not an issue. I should share that we're open to a transracial adoption as well - if that influences your opinions or input in anyway. Thanks so much in advance for any insight! I'm looking to hear the pros and cons to both from those who have been there!
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I can't give you personal experience advice on this, but maybe you could contact a social worker who has experience with adoptions?You will need to consider the amount of time it takes to complete the adoption and how old your first son is at that time. You also need to consider the age of a child that is "right" for you - are you prepared to parent an older child or toddler or do you prefer an "infant"? I've read negative comments about "artificial twinning" somewhere on this forum months ago. It's having two kids that are real close in age. You may want to search for more info on this.
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I know my oldest child is now 18 and I am adopting a baby. My son adores his little brother but one day made a commet to me that he wished he would have came a little eariler in his life. I think it is a personal choice really. infants and toddlers are aot of work but if your up for it go for it. Best of luck
