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Hi everyone! My name is Piper. I'm a SAHM to Cale and Pruitt. I was adopted at birth and grew up knowing that I was adopted. I was made to feel very special and often joked about being the "chosen" one :) I never felt abandoned or hurt because I was adopted.
My parents helped me understand that I was offered a better life. My adoption was closed and private. All of the records were locked and sealed through the state of TX. The amazing thing was, I'd never thought about finding my bio-parents. Not b/c I didn't want my life disrupted, but b/c I knew that I had been given a special gift and I was at peace with the decision made at my birth.
Talk about shock when I received an email from a volunteer stating that she believed my birthmother was looking for me. I was actually a little mad and upset by her email. I'd heard the story my entire life and for her to email me and not just say, "I believe your birthmother is looking for you," she emailed me with INFO and NAMES. It just made it too real for me. I did sit on that info for awhile and finally decided to let her send my info to my birthmother. It was a hard decision because I knew that it not only effected my life and the lives of my family, but the lives of my birthmom and everyone connected to her.
That was July 2004. Since, we've emailed back and forth (often once a day) and I've even exchanged emails with my half sisters and bio-grandfather. My bio mother doesn't know where my bio father is and doesn't like to talk about him so I face the issue of if I want to locate him or not.
Things have worked out well with my relationship with my birthmom. We have yet to meet IRL, but I'm just not ready for that yet.
My parents didn't handle the news well, but have figured out that they are NOT going to get replaced. They are and always have been mom and dad :)
I've even been involved in a documentary about adoptees. I hope to meet others that might be interested in sharing their story for a series in the same project. The producer has even asked me to allow her to interview my birthfamily AND my family for a future series!
I constantly get asked about being adopted. It's actually something that I am proud of. I hope that I can adopt our third child. . .some day :)
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Piper:
You are SO SPECIAL!!! I got such a good feeling from reading your post. Your parents really did a great job bringing you up, and I can bet you are a GREAT mom to yours too. (I'm not adopted - I am the spouse of a bdad trying to learn about all the different sides) But I had to jump in and say that I admire your attitude and perspective, and wishing you MUCH success on the project!!
Take care,
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Awww thank you so much!! I think my parents did a wonderful job! :) And I know I turned out well when my birthmom says she's proud of me and her decision. I feel pretty lucky and blessed in my life :)
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Your story made me think maybe I have hope. I am a amom. My daughter recently found her bmom and bfamily. She states, " you are my mom and dad and that will never change." But, of course I worry. Your parents did a great job. They are so blessed and you are too.
Piperdanai
Awww thank you so much!! I think my parents did a wonderful job! :) And I know I turned out well when my birthmom says she's proud of me and her decision. I feel pretty lucky and blessed in my life :)
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patti Daniels
Your story made me think maybe I have hope. I am a amom. My daughter recently found her bmom and bfamily. She states, " you are my mom and dad and that will never change." But, of course I worry. Your parents did a great job. They are so blessed and you are too.
Well thank you so much. My parents, mainly my mom, they were scared to death. They shared with me their feelings on being "replaced" etc. My mom said that she was afraid that I'd want to spend Christmas and other holidays with my birthfamily. But let me tell YOU what I told THEM. Yes, my birthmom created me and had me, but regardless of that beginning, they are still strangers. I don't know much about them and why would I go away from MY family during times that I should be WITH family. Your daughter is right. You're her mom and her dad is her dad and nothing can change that! :)
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Piperdanai
Well thank you so much. My parents, mainly my mom, they were scared to death. They shared with me their feelings on being "replaced" etc. My mom said that she was afraid that I'd want to spend Christmas and other holidays with my birthfamily. But let me tell YOU what I told THEM. Yes, my birthmom created me and had me, but regardless of that beginning, they are still strangers. I don't know much about them and why would I go away from MY family during times that I should be WITH family. Your daughter is right. You're her mom and her dad is her dad and nothing can change that! :)
My daughter's half brother and sister came home with her today. Her brother reported that they are going to go on a cruise at Christmas to Mexico. I waited until I could ask my daughter if she was going. She said, "of course not." You are right. I will need to watch my feelings and not feel insecure.
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saxyappy
Hi Piper,
Aside from the random e-mail telling me my birth mom's info, my story parallels yours fairly well. It's nice to see a fellow adoptee have a great childhood. Good job staying positive! :) It's refreshing and cute kid!
Thank you :) You got a random email with nothing but just info? Mind me asking the story on that one??
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You have a very nice story. I was adopted by an awful family. I was molested and abused and no longer speak with my adoptive family. However, 2 days ago I recieved an email from a lady asking if I am her birthdaugther... I am still in shock. We have started conversing via im.. I have come to the conclusion that I was told alot of lies. I really don't know anything about my birthmother. And this lady that contacted me may not be her... but I am hoping.
I am so glad to see that adoption does work out for some people.
May God Bless you and your family
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Kristy..I am so saddened by your story.. I too am an adoptee and was found by my bmom in May of this year.
I love my family and am very close with them but was also thrilled at the opportunity to know my bmom and my buncle...
I hope that this is your bmother and that things go better for you with her. I hope that you have received some type of support and that in time that you can heal from some obviously hurtful times in your life.
Be blessed...
cnb
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